I’m a voracious reader (and a lady, and was an English Major) and I’ve come to realize how intensely but subsconsciously I held to the generalization that books by men are good and books by women are iffy. I’m absolutely an outspoken feminist, too, and I still wasn’t immune to falling under that spell. I started…

As much as fantasy and sci-fi are often incredibly sexist, at least they can often operate in worlds where women have powerful and important roles to play, and can absolutely be the protagonists. I’m looking over at my bookshelf right now and I can spot a dozen books/series with female protagonists just in a quick…

Ann Leckie’s nomination for the Hugos is one of the reasons the Hugo nomination process went to hell as MRAs invaded in protest. Ancillary Justice and Ancillary Sword are two books of a trilogy where a female bodied but non-gendered protagonist in a society without gender recognition but the default pronoun is “she.”…

Oh, I love this- gave me shivers! (So far, those dots are the only tattoos I have.)

Is there a forum, a group, or at least a mechanism among this site, with so many women with such amazing experiences, very good, very good, or in between, to all those of us with TERRIBLE bumps along those roads to be able to connect with one another other than just hoping we get out of the grays too / with each other?

Hope you feel better soon! I've never had an abortion but my friends that have have told me the recovery for a medical abortion is more difficult than a surgical one.

Been single since 2002 and it’s finally getting old.
In the meantime, I've learned some smarmy things about men. It's gonna have to be one hell of a guy to make me feel completely comfortable with men again.

Now that this has over 800 comments, I feel safe posting this in the greys because no one will ever see it. Heeheeehaaaaaa.

This week, I finished cancer treatment. It’s just more than a year since the diagnosis. Surgery, chemo, more surgery, surgery to fix what went wrong with the second surgery, and finally, radiation. Lots of radiation. Every weekday for five weeks. The last few days, I got burnt. (Yes, I know. My username is…

So I found out 10 days ago that I was pregnant, and today I took the second pill(s) for a medical abortion. It was way less horrible than I was expecting, and I’m honestly so relieved that this is almost over... It’s been such an emotional week and a half, and I just want to start feeling like myself again.

Grumble. Getting my dad an iPhone is like pulling teeth soaked in cement. “No dad, you need to always take your phone with you. It’s like your old phone that way.” “No dad, your bluetooth doesn’t work so you’ll need a new one.”

Late but I just need to get this out. My fiancee and I have been planning on marrying for a while or at least having her immigrate here to the US soon, and we both agree that the fiancee visa looks to be the best option for us both. I’m so overwhelmed by the immigration process that I’ll have to start on for my…

Okay guys, I’ve been waiting around for SNS because REAL TALK...I have some questions and this is the commentariat I want to ask. I also have my usual fun discussion prompts. ENJOY BOTH. Here they are...answer a few or answer all!

My doctor moved to another practice. I assumed that I would just follow her so I didn’t try to get an appointment until last week. It turns out her new practice is some sort of concierge service where I would have to pay thousands of dollars to subscribe but would have 24/7 access to her or her new partner. Nope. So…

I’m sorry. For what it’s worth, I think in good relationships, it is as simple as you think it should be. My best friendships (no romantic experience to speak of) really do just flow like water. You are kind and honest and talk things out, and it just works. That’s not to say there isn’t effort, but it doesn’t feel…

Am I too late? I can never remember what time SNS goes up and it’s like 1.30am here so it feels kinda late lol.

3 months since my surgery to fix my broke ass leg, and I’m finally starting to make plans again. It’s pretty disheartening to suddenly be someone who can’t really make any plans, because you’re stuck on crutches and just trying to get from one day to the next. But I’ve been to physical therapy 4 times now and am…

I have had it with the majority of my children at this moment. Big Foot is 12. She is doing 12 year old bullshit like expecting me to run and scoop up a friend for her to hang out and buy her ridiculous things like hats she will never wear. Annoying but she gets a pass on this because 1. she is acting like a normal 12…

Still in my clotty misery. In a lot of pain, hurts to walk, no pain control, whine whine whine. I’m kind of stumped with my Clottisha song. Normally, when I write songs, I basically puke something out in seven-ten minutes, and that’s it. That’s the entire song, and it doesn’t get edited or changed, and those have…

I once, at 21, attempted to shave my ex's initial (Z) on my mound and tried to sexily surprise him. He started cracking up until he was crying. It was backwards. I don't recommend initial shaving. Ever.