Thanks, intellectually I know it gets better when you leave a LTR but I need to hear that it really happens, for real people in real life. Everyone is telling me how strong I am, but I seem to have plateaued at a certain level of coping about a week after the breakup and it's disheartening to not be making "progress".…

Woohoo, stayed up late enough on a Sunday night for the Sign-off! I posted this earlier today in the Saturday Night Social, but imma post it again here:

Nice way to talk down to all Art History majors...

I watched it 3 weeks after the breakup and brought 3 packs of tissues but I didn't cry at all :) It was actually quite light on the science, but referred to it briefly. There's mroe on the brain chemistry of love here:

What's that bit in Leviticus/Deuteronomy on not getting tattoos?

I saw that too, in school in Ireland in the 90s! It was all weird and confusing, with a grandmotherly woman sitting in an over-decorated sitting room talking about "sanitary napkins", her mouth moving as if it was a delicate pair of tongs closing around a dirty object. As a 10 year old girl, nocturnal emissions…

Exactly. Intelligence and developmental progress are not the same thing. I like your sneaky plan of changing schools after one year :)

Just wanna say that Saturday and Sunday night Jezebel is my lifeline right now, thank you all so much for being there and being chatty when I'm lonely. My 10 year relationship ended 3 months ago and I have no friends in this city, but I get a feeling of community here :) Thanks again.

Your father sounds awesome.

Well, I'm just out of a relationship that went a bit like that, so I can't give good advice or say it's all going to be okay. However, you need to say to him again that you both need to prioritise your relationship, and make a concrete plan on how to do so. It sounds like he could cut down on his hobby a bit (do it…

He's SO a secret Jezebel reader ;)

Nope. Geneva has two Irish pubs and few other bars. It's pretty grim, social-life wise. Expect to pay €7 for a pink of Guinness!

I know that feeling. I agree with the commenter who says just do it, or just start it. Every risk you take is an opportunity for growth, an opportunity to break the hold that anxiety has on you. You're saying "yes Anxiety, it's you, I recognise you, you've been here before. I know you're here but I'm going to do it…

I was with my ex for 10 years. We broke up less than three months ago and I loved him all the way to the end, it was our love for each other that made it hard to break up, though we knew it wasn't working.

The Germans act as if tap water is poison, when (in my area at least) it comes straight from the Alps, is filtered without being chlorinated and fluoridated, and tastes GLORIOUS. Check out www.toytowngermany.com/forum and Internations to meet other Anglos.

I would recommend the two years of kindergarten. At that age a one year age gap can translate to a substantial developmental gap, and being the one kid who can't pay attention for very long/is emotionally more immature/doesn't have the same hand-eye coordination is hard. It can lead to the kid thinking of themselves…

Begorrah, says no one...

I was strident once, but I pulled a hamstring.

Thanks! Interesting that Moorcock has written an essay like that, as I find his work deeply problematic in many ways. I'll look up what you recommend, thanks again.

A lot of her work makes me feel intensely uncomfortable, but I always feel enriched by it.