I’m not sure how well those plates work to shame people given that I’ve heard them referred to as “party plates”...

I’m confused how this is supposed to be “proof” of alcohol consumption in the sorority house. The quote from the article mentions the kite (I assume the black shape at the top of the picture) and “the letters on the desk” (I assume the silver “K” on the middle shelf). Admittedly, I don’t know much about sororities…

Since I did not know Fry was leaving, congratulations on giving me emotional whiplash.

I’m not seeing the show until September and not seeing Diggs is my greatest fear.

Ah sorry. I read your post to mean that no-questions-asked was unreasonably radical compared to the sensible circumstantial limits.

There really is a division among pro-choicers who believe that a woman should always be able to get an abortion, no questions asked, at any stage of the pregnancy [...]

And my axe!

No they’re not sluts. They’re misguided children who need rational, clear-headed men to explain their own situation to them.

I think the story goes that abortion providers “encourage” women to have abortions that would not otherwise have them and that the providers “encourage” some women more than others.

I think they believe that abortion providers “encourage” women to have abortions that would not otherwise have them and that the providers “encourage” some women more than others.

The excuse I hear is that big names get more people to come to the theater and it just so happens that most actors who are considered big are white.

I don’t think it’s conscious on the part of writers/producers/casters etc. Everyone wants the movie to succeed so they do what’s “best” without looking at the impact across the whole system. I doubt the people who cast Johansson thought to themselves “there! now white people will see this movie because she’s white!”…

Films with 20-30% actors of color do better at the box office than films with more white actors.

You are what I want to be when I grow up.

I know that isn’t the norm (I explicitly said so, in fact). I would argue it is also not the norm for women to be able to say no whenever they want. We’re both talking about idealized futures to work towards; I just think the one you describe shouldn’t be the end goal.

Currently, consent is assumed or inferred in the absence of a perfect “no”: What were you wearing? Did you resist? Why did you go with them? Were you drinking? Have you had sex with them before? Have you had sex with anyone before? It sounds like you just want to add another question to the litany: Were you explicit…

You’re right. I’m being uncharitable because this story pisses me off. Second Friend is more a poster child for why we need consent education than a worthless sack of shit.

One friend and one worthless sack of shit.

I agree that women need to be empowered to say no when they mean it. That empowerment is not, I think, the best solution since it reinforces the idea that the onus is on the victim to resist and then to “prove” they resisted. Better to focus on changing the default settings for consent.

I told two of my close friends about what happened. One said he had essentially raped me. The other said it doesn’t count as rape because even though I said it hurt, I didn’t say it forcefully enough.