I didn't mean YOU should learn nuance. People in general, especially online. Sharing a story about an injustice and/or posting your sincere thoughts on the matter is not the same as humble-bragging about how you totally got away with something that would get a black man thrown in prison.

Can you tell? Online, where so much rage is manufactured self-back-pattery? As a demi-white (an Ashkenaz Jew — the other white meat!) I cannot. None of it is above suspicion. I've seen plenty in this thread that was obvious jockeying for approval, a lot more that was iffy, and only a little well-thought-out…

Not from any sort of moral high-horse, they shouldn't. Because their behavior is just as cookie-grabby. They're just going the sneakier, more route to the cookie jar. "Look how good an ally I am, I chase away PHONY allies, so we can do it right!"

Anywho, I replied to your question in the salad bowl or whatever it's called. I apologize that my rant has added to your frustration. White people ARE easily frustrated. Privilege makes you soft. People of color don't owe us cookies, but we shouldn't undercut one another to try and earn those cookies anyway. It's…

Oh, I dunno about "every single". The ones that claim to have given up probably weren't that serious about helping in the first place. To the point that I question how much help they've actually provided, or if they're not just concern trolling. I certainly feel no need to stop helping. I acknowledge that part of my…

I think you may be misunderstanding me. My ire is directed at other white allies who try to earn cred with people of color by tearing down others whose decency comes with anxiety and a desire for praise. Black people like Ms. Bennett and yourself are well within your rights to be annoyed with needy allies.

I personally am fine without cookies. I just don't mind if other people want cookies. Black people are more than allowed to talk about how that shit's obnoxious and frustrating. That's THEIR right. My fellow whities, however, don't get to jump on that bandwagon. Their actions are just as suspect. You want to be a…

Different acts have different price-tags. Marching and true activism are pricier by far than pearl-clutchy tweets. I agree with you that altruism is ultimately its own reward, but some people are more brittle than others and want a cookie for helping. I am saying is I'd rather hand out cookies and tell people how to…

True altruism with no hope of even encouragement or gratitude is HARD, dawg. We can't all be saints.

I will straight-up admit I've pulled this a time or two and felt like a heel for it. It's manipulative and childish and very male. It's also a defense mechanism that stems from the male identity as stoic protector-provider.

I dunno, I'm really uncomfortable with giving in to ANY terrorist threats, no matter how trivial their outrage or how little value the thing they want banned is (and yeah, this doesn't look like much of a movie).

This really is crazypants. When I'm considering retweeting Newt goddamn Gingrich, I feel the need to check for the Bizarro symbol on my chest. "Lois, why am movie studio afraid of tin pot dickpotato?"

The first thing I'll say is I thought this was a very nuanced, conflicted piece that wasn't so much shaming "good white people" as it was expressing Ms. Bennett's ambivalence toward allies who have no frame of reference for her actual experience.

I'm not sure Aaron Sorkin continues to be a total wang. You could read his quote as saying "Wah! Men have to work harder to win Oscars!" but I find the last line very telling: "There just aren't that many tour de force roles out there for women."

Just to be clear: Dornan plays a sociopathic sexual sadist... and some guy in something called The Fall?

Actually, pretty much all humans tend to link beauty and goodness. We're a vain, superficial species everywhere on Earth.

Feeling guilty about pleasure is overrated.

If it's any consolation to him, it may not be anyone he LIKES.

To be clear: his own wife was both molested AND raped, by two different people, and he has trouble believing these things are common enough that he knows one?

I have honestly rather had it with this notion that the legal system decides what we can and can't feel about a person. The legal system decides if and how a person is punished by the government. That is 100,000% percent of it.