Oh yeah. Honestly if the animal is extremely aggressive that’s a strong indication that it’s pretty damn stressed and unhappy. If you’ve tried everything you can and it’s still aggressive at that point the animal would probably prefer to be re-homed.

No. People are mad because he was suggesting people were conflating the two, in the first place. And they aren’t.

Anyone with a sense of justice would support some sort of law that any NDA is invalid if it’s being used to conceal illegal activity on behalf of any party...or something like that. Similar to exceptions that are made for lawyers, doctors etc. when it comes to confidentiality. I’m not a lawyer (obviously), but that…

Okay. Cross-over to 3-ingredient happy hour and let us know what you you do with this. We need answers, damn it!

When I hear about couples who get rid of a pet once they have a baby just because it’s too much work I always wanted to respond, “Oh totally! That’s why I got rid of my toddler once we had the second baby, made things sooo much easier.”

The only thing she needs to correct is her engagement to him.

Phobias and trauma are real; it’s not like they don’t exist, and not every single person in the world has to adore dogs/swimming/public speaking/cake/whatever.

This is utterly ridiculous, AntiDog Guy. Was this an arranged engagement and you only met a week ago? Did you never once go to her house? She never mentioned SHE HAS TWO DOGS? The “pets I have” thing tends to come up early in a dating relationship. If you despise dogs so utterly how on earth did you two get as far as…

As a general rule of thumb, going into a relationship expecting that your partner stop loving something important to them and instead love you to fill the void, is not a good idea.

I can kinda, sorta get the principle of it. Weirdly enough, I used to be able to climb trees and rocks like a squirrel when I was a kid, but now that I’m an adult, I get incredibly intense vertigo around heights. Like, the last time I was up on a freestanding cliff face, before I knew what was happening, I passed out,…

Yeah, don’t blame you, I’ve read a lot of horror stories. I was in a puppy training class years ago and someone with a puppy started their intro with, “We want to train our dog to hunt and we also want to train it to get along with our cat.” The trainer was basically like, we need to speak privately, those two things…

I had some sympathy for the guy until he said she needed to get rid of her two dogs and get therapy for her “dog addiction.” Even if he agrees to get therapy, she should seriously dump this guy. Asking someone to get rid of a pet for your casual comfort is a huge red flag for me and speaks to their huge lack of…

As a Dog Person, I would never contemplate marrying someone who disliked dogs. And someone who asked me to get rid of my dog...yeah, bye. I’ve known her longer, she already lives here. You don’t.

I hate it when people do this. “I had a bad experience with a dog when I was five, so I can never be around them again.” “My dad forced me to go in the pool before I was ready, so water is a no go for the rest of my life.” “A masked gorilla scared me at Halloween as a toddler, so to this day I keep trick-or-treaters…

Same here. I’ve known one person who had a crippling fear of cats, due to being attacked as a small child. I can understand how someone who’s had a similar experience can make pet ownership a relationship dealbreaker.

Why would ANYONE want to marry someone who can dispose of a lifetime commitment when it becomes inconvenient for someone else?

Naaaaaaw, Chief. When you take on a pet, you take on a responsibility for that pet for its LIFE. You don’t bail on a pet when it’s sick or sad or inconvenient. You spend money and time and love on it. Any pet - dog, cat, iguana, llama.

This is absolutely not on the fiancee to fix. The dogs were a pre-existing condition, so to speak, and OP knew this going in. You don’t give up dogs like they’re furniture that doesn’t work with a new house or something. This OP needs therapy, which s/he should have gotten years ago (since dogs aren’t exactly…

The man just told you she has two dogs. I’m assuming she’s had them while they were courting and before the engagement. And now he’s being all “It’s me or the dogs and you’re crazy if you keep them.” on her.

You can pry my dogs from my cold, dead arms. Like hell they’re staying outside during evenings, disrupting the neighborhood by barking at the door endlessly— they’re pack animals and need their people. Nor would I lob them off indefinitely onto someone else while this dude works through his shit. It’s way too easy for…