So, she totally rebuffed his flirting and he’s taking his hurt fee-fees to the media, right?

That is literally the definition of being an actor.

I’ve never heard a bad word about her... and I’ve never even heard of him. “I’ll never make a film with supermodels again” a way to devalue someone’s 15 year career is to ignore their actual profession.

It’s telling how the woman in her mid-20ies is a homewrecker, while the poor, naive man twice her age and life experience was just an easy mark to exploit and blackmail.

I’m real happy Arya is Arya. Most people don’t need a a year a half to learn they are themself but still cool. Although Sansa is already doing more with HER needle to avenge her family than Arya has. Making her and her brother propaganda clothes and such.

This! Yes, I've been in an open relationship for 8 years, + we did 7 years of being monogamous before that (wayyy better being open). I know tons of people in similar situations that make it work, but you can't be open about it for professional or family reasons.

See that’s just it, why do we think that? Maybe I’m missing something obvious, but he never says anything to indicate that she’s not being trustworthy. What is so unbelievable about a married woman kissing another man, realizing she has difficulty with monogamy, and talking to her husband about that? And if that is…

... Am I the only one getting uncomfortable at all the hate for his wife in the comments? Everyone seems to think it much more likely that she’s “manipulating” him, rather than simply having issues with the relationship as it was and discussing that with her partner. She’s being called a cheater, even though it seems…

Personally, I would much rather my partner just fucks someone else every once in a while than be a drunk video playing idiot when he’s around me. I know people who are in relationships where their spouses are out playing pool and poker all the time, but hey they are not cheating! I don’t see anything more potent about…

I’m curious to know if you would feel the same way about someone who took six months, in long, intense conversations, drinking lots of red wine, to decide that *monogamy* was something they could accept in their relationship. Like they weren’t personally inclined toward monogamy but spent that amount of time deciding…

Power dynamics creep up in closed relationships too.

I think you could be a bit more charitable to both of them and say that the patriarchal slut-shamey nature of our society combined with the default position of monogamy meant that his wife was never really able to figure out what she wanted. We can’t always know that before entering into any kind of commitment. If she…

I think this speaks more to how we can’t really believe open relationships work and our bias against them.

How feminist! It’s impossible to imagine a man who would actually be ok with his woman getting more ass than he does! We’re such good feminists here, aren’t we? You pretty much missed the entire point of his article.

Thank you. And articles (and comment threads like this one and the one at the New Yorker) illustrate *why* people who do have open marriages that work keep their mouths shut. People tend to interfere, project and sabotage until the situation looks precisely the way they think it should. They assume that polyamory…

Open relationship doesn’t exactly mean both people are getting equal amounts of sex on the side? Why do people thing that?

I’m not a big fan of polyamory myself, but sometimes people do discover they’re poly after marrying monogamous people. Sometimes those couples break up, but there are people who agree to have a poly-mono marriage (because the monogamous person doesn’t particularly want to sleep with anyone else) without either person…

Can’t both be expressions of feminism? I can wear pants and call it feminist, doesn’t mean wearing a dress isn’t feminist. It’s the empowerment to make choices for yourself, based on what you want, that makes it feminist. The fact that you get to make a choice to be monogamous is just as feminist as someone making a…

As Dan Savage says, the reason that people think open relationships don’t work is that, by and large, the majority of people in them don’t make it public. So pretty much the only open relationships you see publicly are the ones that are failing.

I lurked on the poly subreddit for a while as people watching and it seems like this is often the case, where only one partner has multiple partners and the other is okay with that and prefers only having one partner.