Well, if you think that making a decision to host a kid’s birthday party at someplace other than Chuck E. Cheese is a translatable skill, then I don’t know what to tell you. Maybe that decision is monumental in your family life but it’s a really bad example to list when stating you have the skill to follow a budget.

Can you be fired from your parenting job for poor performance? That’s the difference. In the workforce, you have to answer to others’ expectations of you. If you are late to work every day and it has an effect on the business, at the minimum you’ll likely get spoken to about it. If your lateness is pervasive, you…

OK, but you are listing things that could actually be useful on a resume depending on your field: getting a degree and volunteering. Those aren’t things that you got by being a SAHM.

Your last paragraph ignores the fact that there are many, many people who manage to parent while working full time. If your “gold” resume lands in front of one of them, you’ll be laughed at heartily while being denied interviews.

Those Titanic people are at least filming in landscape position. I haaaaaate portrait-oriented videos.

I appreciate y’all’s patience in explaining this. I actually do see how a PoC person might prefer a dermatologist that’s also a PoC. I was looking at it from my (white) perspective. For me, I don’t think there’s any reason to prefer a white dermatologist (is there? My skin issues are pretty ordinary so I’ve not had to…

“You” are not terrible. Your thoughts are not terrible; they are just thoughts. If you take action on them, though, you are doing a terrible thing.

Got your towel ready?

I find this statement weird. Do you not think dermatologists get training in all sorts of skin types? By your logic — “No one wants someone unfamiliar with their skin’s special needs messing up the first thing people see” — my dermatologist would not only have to be white, she’d have to have sensitive skin, an oily…

That’s what did me in right there. If you are truly sorry, why didn’t you (Alina) backspace and change the word to something else before you posted? “I love all people” doesn’t excuse your shittiness.

Scary how prescient our phones are.

They all watched Gabby Gifford’s struggle to return to work and there was no gun reform. This incident will probably have them voting for a law that requires everyone to carry guns at all times.

But dropping dead after like a decade in prison, right? I’d cheerfully pay more taxes to keep him alive in prison so he could have loads of time to see his “legacy” disintegrate..

You cannot stand to be wrong on this subject, can you? Unless your upthread comment completely refuted your assessment that no one could possibly be traumatized by a hug, there was no need for me to search it out. Do you understand that I was responding specifically to your statement about traumatization?

I hardly care to read all your comments. In this one, you said no one would be traumatized. You have no way of knowing that. I work with abused children. Let me assure you that random unwanted touches can re-traumatize some of them, never mind what a hug from someone might do. So, yes, people can be traumatized. I…

Frankly, I think it should have been awkward for her. She burst in on him while he was working to demand a hug. It’s completely fine, and mostly expected, for him to just say no and get back to his work.

Also he was working at the time! Most of us, I would think, would not want someone — especially someone we don’t know! — crashing into our workspace asking for a hug.

You have no idea if someone would be traumatized or not. You are not them. It’s great that you think hugs are no big deal. It’s also ok for someone to think they are a big deal.

Yes! And when there’s dust in the air you may sneeze. And it might feel good to sneeze in that situation. But it doesn’t mean you want to be in the dusty-air room.

Yes. Because, sadly, there are way too many people who think that if you have an orgasm, you must have enjoyed it so it couldn’t possibly have been rape. He either lied about thinking she had an orgasm or he assumes she did because of course she really wanted him but was too coy or something. Scum will keep on…