UN of D! *cackle* I've mostly been ambassador to the athlete contingent (as an athlete), but I wish I'd been a more general diplomat before monogamy! More variety would've been awesome—but I can't complain, either. I've had a preponderance of partners who like to pick me up and toss me onto beds; admittedly, I giggle…

Is there someone you can have watching out for her, to bounce her out before you even see her? That was actually Mr. Cherry's job at one of his friend's weddings, and it worked.

I had nightmares about my toxic parents crashing my first wedding, so my solution was to invite them and ask family members to run interference. It worked well. People care about you and protecting you, so it's worth a shot if you're stressing. BUT, that said, I wish I hadn't invited them at all. The stress of seeing…

This. My cousins were miracle-workers at my wedding. (Because there is almost no way to spin "God, we should have bound your feet before it was too late" into well-intentioned advice.)

Black twitter is on it

Ugh, a friend and I just did that this weekend. The restaurant closed at 8, and when we got there at 7:15, it was still full. (We didn't check the closing time on our way in.) We were deep in conversation when I looked up and noticed the waitstaff standing around, and realized we were the last people there. We felt…

This mindset can occur in the Korean community as well. My aunt was a detective (Los Angeles), and one of the saddest parts of her job was educating immigrant rape victims that they weren't, in fact, now obligated to marry their rapist, no matter what he said.

Right? I'm a happily married/satisfied woman, and I want to try a sexbot. I don't think it would fall so innocently under the vibrator category though, so no Fassbender/Manganiello 'bot order for me... (which is fair... I don't suppose I'd be too happy with a Hayek model in his closet).

Yeah, I'm a little disturbed by the posts that say "no way." Mr. Cherry used to be a nanny*, then a kindergarten teacher. There's a club in our city for men who teach early childhood, because they face weird stigmas (i.e., they must be molesters). But they're just really good with kids. If we ever breed, I'll lean…

I was in a room full of white people (I am blasian) when this story appeared on the news yesterday. Someone said he didn't believe it, "because he owns a team full of black people." I replied that "white people owned and profited from a lot of black people for a very long time while hating them. I don't see why this…

As a woman of color (in healthcare) who must also account for productivity, and is also initially treated as support staff, I honestly don't see anything wrong here. I'm not angry, I wish hospitals would try this. There are a lot of older white men in my field who wouldn't even think to do it if someone didn't…

Roof-to-Pool Idiots are surprisingly common in that region (I did an internship at UCLA med center). She is very lucky.

I worked at a company where there was no productivity requirement for my department, which is not the norm in my field. I found it pretty strange, but it was a corporation that recently topped Denver's biggest profitable company list; after discovering no one had had raises for years, it wasn't hard to grasp the lack…

Amen. I'm going to brag for a moment: last summer, we bought a 1953 house, where the walls were the original (super crappy, pocked) plaster. Mr. Cherry wanted to knock them all out and replace with new walls, but given our rate of home improvement I was a little skeptical. A contractor friend saw me work with tile…

I'm not in the food service industry, but in our office, we regularly agree that the biggest pains in the ass are the middle aged women. And I'm like, Ms. Hardcore Feminist, so it breaks my icy heart of Athena to say that. But the only clients who scream at me, the only clients who make unreasonable demands, the…

I'm not so sure. I moved from SoCal to religious, conservative Colorado Springs (not while pregnant, though) a few years ago. The number of unsolicited comments I got on my body, race, or face dropped through the floor. No one tries to touch my hair! It shocked me, but in my experience people in conservative places…

Right? I stared at the facility more than the kids, thinking what the heck kind of school is this?? (We didn't have lockers. NO, YOU'RE BITTER.)

Yeah, I was coming here to say the same thing. PT can work wonders for migraine-sufferers and even sinus problems (if they are also lymphedema certified), maybe give it a try?

HAA. When Mr. Cherry and I were dating, the Mistress paused to eye us and ask, "Are you married or just fucking?" I yelled back, "JUST FUCKING" and smiled real big. I can't imagine seeing that show with family.

This; there absolutely is trauma. Part of my work is with people with severe psychological diagnoses and addictions. I firmly believe sex addiction is real... but someone cheating on their partner isn't necessarily sex-addicted.