I swear by Essie polish, and I used to be the same way as you—didn't see the point, but when Turquoise and Caicos came out I couldn't find anything I liked quite as much. At least with my nail chemistry, and everyone's is a little different, it lasts very well without a top or base coat. I tend to keep my nails filed…

CAPITALISM!

I think to really understand it, men need to recognize the physical intimidation factor that comes with it.

Agreed. I lost 80 lbs and have kept it off for 2 years.

I think you may have missed the point...they're talking about their fellow soldiers and commanding officers raping them, not those who capture them. Which, in many cases, women are punished for reporting. Having grown up near a military base, there were multiple cases where a woman was dishonorably discharged for…

You. I like you.

I used to be on the border of plus size...while I could typically buy clothes in most stores, I always went to Torrid for swimsuits. They managed to design cute suits that a) understand what women with big boobs need in a swimsuit and b) weren't swim dresses. A lot of cute, vintage style tankinis and fun prints and…

Yea, I've known both of these women for years and I really don't think it's an insecurity thing. I think it's just a product of growing up in our culture, and not opening their minds enough to realize that there are plenty of amazing people who aren't supermodels.

I've tried inviting them to things. We live in a medium city with a pretty decent arts scene in the Northeast, so there are plenty of cool, free activities to go to, as well as nice restaurants and bars. I've invited them out plenty of times, and while they'll occasionally go, they usually leave quickly and prefer to…

I didn't mean to make them sound so terrible...they really are nice women who I've been friends with since college, so we have a good rapport.

Just to clarify, both of these girls had asked me if I had any guy friends available, and after showing the guys their Facebooks, they also asked to be introduced. I'm not the type to set up people without knowing they want it.

D'oh, totally missed that table pun! And I should have included that I don't think their loneliness has anything to do with weight...I meant more that they haven't developed themselves in terms of their intellect and personality. I would NEVER say anything about their weight to them, especially in conjunction with…

Exactly. I'm in the same boat of being average sized AND having a penchant for weird colored/patterned tights. There have a been a couple of times when a guy has been like "your tights are weird" disapprovingly, and I've said replied "I don't care what you think" and they've gotten pretty upset that I didn't accept…

Yea, with friends of both genders I've encouraged them to develop interests and hobbies, go to community event, mor join a group activity. Not only does it get you out of the house, it lends to your development as a person. Plus, you never know if just the right person might be in that adult dodgeball league, free…

It's a tough question, there isn't really a good answer...I have a couple of female friends who are nice, sweet girls, who also happen to be obese. They have no interests beyond reality TV and celebrity gossip, rarely leave their apartments, and have no real hobbies.

Like others have said, you don't need to feel bad for acknowledging that he was a jerk who hurt you.

I think a lot of this ties into the fact that some men assume that their female friends are sexually attracted to them. So they feel like they need to yell "NOOOOOO FATTTIEESSS!" from the mountain tops.

Very good point. And you should definitely think about picking it up—I've never found a better depiction of what it's like to be a angsty, confused teenager who's stuck in a place that bores them to death.

I love Ghost World, but if they're trying to make it a "blind date" they're going to have to try a little harder to not be as obvious.

I get this a lot, because I'm one of those people who, if they aren't openly smiling, looks like they're scowling.