Exactly! I'm very fair with light eyes, but that only comes from one side of the family....with their genes, or something lurking in my own, it's a crap shoot either way.

Yea, when I looked into it I was offered almost double what they had advertised (I think they advertised the minimum they would pay.) I'm thin, white, medium height, with a degree from a well known liberal arts college. Given my background of study and activities, I could also prove that I was musically inclined and…

Hence the term "The Patriarchy Hurts Men Too." Many people see women as naturally less violent, so they are treated with more leniency.

It can also work the other way around. I'm 23 and recently broke up with a 20 year old guy, and he had completely unrealistic expectations about us getting engaged/married immediately and finding my resistance to the idea a sign that I wasn't committed and didn't love him. Of course, it was a self-fulfilling prophecy…

Exactly, isn't that what hair colored bobby pins are for? I have medium length thick hair, and while I'm not a gymnast, the combo of gel and bobby pins could stand up to a hurricane.

What an absolute piece of trash...I hope you have found peace. That's one of the few things we can hope for—that no matter what happens to us, we are the people we are who can move forward and change the world.

Good point, it's something I'll have to think about. I think it comes from a place of male privilege—if I like a woman and she doesn't hate me, she must want me.

Ugh disgusting. My parents are on their first marriage, and they are actually happy, but there was a bit of a scandal in their church when they wouldn't let a member become the assistant pastor after he admitted that he wouldn't tell a woman it was ok to divorce a physically abusive husband because it "wasn't a…

It got rave reviews from people like my mother— white, liberal baby boomers who were too young to be involved in Civil Rights, but were old enough to realize the violence and bigotry that was going on around them. I hated it myself, as it reeked of tokenism and stereotypes, but from what I gathered, she and her…

Yea, I have a rather dorky tattoo on the inside of my left forearm, and I've had plenty of people straight up grab my arm and yank me towards them to get a closer look. I don't mind people asking me about my tattoo, I love the story behind it and most people find it interesting, but seriously? You couldn't just ask me…

Yea, I'm straight woman so I could be wrong, but to me this sounds like a bunch of frat boys "maybe I can turn her" fantasies, and they think if they harass enough women, one of them will magically turn straight.

I just want to compliment you for making me laugh on what, as I read the comments, is becoming a more and more depressing thread. From one literary character to another, thank you.

Seriously. How many times has a guy tripped and the palm of his hand just happened to rest flatly right about your ass? Happens to me all the time.

Ugh, this has happened to me a few times. I've found that whipping around with a stern face and saying "Yes?" usually gets them to stop without crowing about me being a bitch.

Like Kara said, a quick tap on the shoulder/arm is sufficient. I go to a lot of shows at clubs, and I understand that it gets way too loud to rely on verbal communication. A shoulder tap is inoffensive and makes your desire known. There is reason to touch a woman anywhere else.

He had never made any feelings known. I am usually very perceptive to nonverbal communication and had no idea there was any interest. We had barely talked that night, and were sitting outside on a deck, a few feet apart, smoking a cigarette. As far as I knew, there had never been anything I had done to display…

There's still a long way to go, but I think some studios, writers, etc. are finally realizing that people don't want a Female Protagonist—they want a protagonist who happens to be female. That's what made Sigourney in the Alien films vs say, Halle in Catwoman a much more attractive option. We weren't forced to see her…

Yea, saying the Help is proof that Hollywood is embracing female leads is problematic. Hollywood is embracing pretty white actresses paired with stereotypical representations of women of color. Because we all know the only African American woman worth portraying is a "sassy" one.

I absolutely agree. Combining horny, drunk, and an often larger physique has the potential to create these situations. We always tell women to be careful not to get too drunk, which I was, but that doesn't matter if someone who can overpower you is highly intoxicated.

Yea, in my case he was a friend who had kept a crush hidden and had apparently thought my standard friend procedures were flirtatious. I am known in my circle of friends for being about as flirtatious as a rock with PMS. When talking about it in the aftermath, it didn't seem to me that he was one of those "I bought…