Yea, I don't begrudge anyone their holiday weekend -we had to choose between engagements this weekend too. I guess I'm just a bit nostalgic for the birthday shitshows of yesteryear. I've got no plan to stop throwing them, they'll just have a different flavor. ;)

This is the opposite for me. Of my three friends with babies <5 mo, one is the best baby I have ever met and the other two are pretty great too. Seriously, the best baby is always happy, smiling and laughing and rarely cries. He's adorable, blue eyes, jet black hair and light caramel skin. Spending time with them…

It's Felinebeaux's birthday today and we had a party this weekend that wasn't really well attended. Of our core group of six friends, three were out of town and a bunch of other friends are in the middle of a move (sept 1 boston move!!!) or have new infants or have moved inconveniently far away (though still within an…

Best of luck on the Boston move-there's a reason I've stayed in my condo for 6 years!! Double check any potential parade routes in your moving route. I helped a friend move a few years back (only a few blocks) but there was a parade route between the two apartments. Uhhh-just don't wanna do it ever again if I can…

Thanks! I know one of my friends got pregnant right away, another unexpectedly with condoms, and my sis tried for over a year then had a molar pregnancy, so I know it varies a lot. It's not a great question to ask a new mom, "So how long were you having unprotected sex before you were pregnant?" It just doesn't…

Honey, you're too damn young to be so cynical. I understand where you're coming from about birthdays not always being joyful, though. Rather than thinking about it as getting older, think about it as a recognition of the challenges you've overcome in the past year. Rather than "happy birthday" people could sing…

I really enjoyed A Million Little Pieces. It might not be what you're looking for, though. It bills itself as a memoir, but is fiction. It helped me try to understand what people with addiction go through and why it's hard to get clean. It likely won't make you feel better, though. Hugs to you and your loved one.

For the Mom Jezzies

I was trying to liken getting necessary massages to necessary doctors visits. My gyno is not also a masseuse as far as I know. At least she's not my masseuse.

disclaimer: I love massages

Uhh bridal showers....Can you send a small, handmade something, or framed picture and schedule a doc or family obligation same day/ time? Food poisoning is a good excuse if you feel you can beg off last minute (but don't leave someone paying for a catered meal you're not gonna eat). You can also just send your regrets…

cheesecake with toppings bar FTW. It wasn't "pretty" but it was delicious!

ginger or camomile tea with a LOT of honey. Drink water like a fiend and stay away from caffeine :) good vibes for the interview!

ain't nobody more judgmental than judgy new parents (or old or never parents!) You do what's best for you! You'll be a better parent if you have some sleep. Set an alarm to make sure you or a partner / awesome friend is there for feelings, but don't stress! Cut yourself some slack and enjoy the time your adorable…

I go for skirts without tights/hose and silk or chiffon tops. Everything is over-air conditioned anyway, since the men are in suits, so a light jacket/cardigan depending on the office is a good idea.

I was on a HBC with no problems for like 10 years, then I started getting terrible anxiety about the same time during my cycle. I switched from a tri-cyclic to a 'mono-cyclic and it's been so much better. Talk to your lady doc about potential solutions for you and your particular situation. Good luck!