I think Terry Crews handled that really well. He talked about how he felt small and disrespected, how he didn’t know what to do in the moment, and how he was concerned for his career. He didn’t make it about how he had it worse; it was about how he had the same concerns as women do and the universality of the…

I’ve always said marriage and kids is the ultimate pyramid scheme. Other people try to talk you into it so they can feel more secure in their choices.

Yes. Most men feel the only rape that happens is the jogger-in-the-park type, and that the only rapists (or racists) are mustache-twirling villains who take joy in being evil and actively acknowledge that they’re bad people.

Your entire thread had me nodding my head. So much of this resonates with me on a spiritual level. I’ve never been able to force anything, or emote over anyone when it’s just not there. I can’t partake in meaningless relationships. It’s all so vapid - the dating process and (MANY) peoples’ opinions re: dating as…

THANK YOU. It’s so refreshing to see someone write about choosing aloneness without sounding defensive. People always think it’s the fallback of the bitter or repressed, or heartbroken, or secretly disturbed—always a reaction to some life catastrophe rather than a serene choice.

It’s how Lady Merc and I started. Friends telling old stories. Sometime last year, we just kind of clicked over to ‘hey, let’s keep doing this, but on a relationship level.’ then on the 9th, last Saturday, I finally made it official and snuck a ring on her finger.

My dude and I have been together over a decade and he is truly my bff, I can’t recommend it enough. Good luck to you ❤️

You’re a romantic. What you want is beautiful and glad you’re enjoying your single life for now.

 Maybe part 2 (or 3) of the MeToo movement should also include all the women and underage girls over the years who have had damaging ‘fucked her way to the top/ was passed around/ was sold to rapists, that’s why she’s a wild “slut” now’ rumours spread about them while living out their teens and 20s in the public eye.…

You got it. How in the world do you reason with them at this point? Do we put them all in a rocket and shoot it into the sun??

I just don’t understand why they get so angry! I’ve been rejected and never cussed them out or acted violent. It’s too much.

I have a lot of health problems, and I was going to the hospital every week for awhile. The thing that I learned is that doctors don’t give a shit. My shit has been going on for like 6 years, and no one has figured out what it is, and no one has barely even tried.

I told a male cousin what happened & he said well you must have flirted with him or something.

This is real. Some of these men can’t take rejection at all. It doesn’t matter their age or race, they get violently made. I once had a guy ask me out in the store. I politely told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested. He proceeded to follow me out to the street. I quickly joined a group of women who were…

I know guys get their feelings hurt because women are sometimes scared of their intentions, but I keep wondering, what do guys think rapists look like?

But if you’re remotely unfriendly, you’re some feminazi bitch and “why do you have to generalize men like that??? #NotAllMen”

I had the same thing happen (also and old guy, and minus the outright harassment—dude was kind enough to leave me alone when I asked). What is it with dudes and taking the most baseline level of courtesy in human interaction as an excuse to hit on you?

When i tell this kind of story to almost any man they always wonder if I should have been more careful in some way 🤦🏼‍♀️

You can’t see everybody’s intentions upon first meeting/seeing them.

You’re right. But I don’t think anyone can stop it.