I wouldn’t call repeated “no”s mixed signals, personally. I’m not sure exactly how those scenarios with the other dudes went - did she eventually say yes? Did she actively participate when they began having sex?

Idk, what you say sounds dangerously like you’re saying “Well yeah, she said no, but how was he to know she meant it?” The idea that sometimes women play hard to get and that means that men can’t be expected to take “No” meaning “No” is obviously problematic.

The author’s encounters and actions with other men really have nothing to do with Dave and the numerous nos he received before having sex with her stiff, unconsenting body. I don’t understand how you can use her behavior with other men as evidence that it’s okay that Dave had sex with her after she repeatedly said no.…

She’s explained it before that it’s because her (half) sister has a different dad and she called him Michael. I’m not sure it makes complete sense but that’s her story.

lmao what

So, a martyr, is what you’re getting at...

Because of “ethical” reasons, she claims, but has yet to provide any and I honestly can’t find any (where all parties participate willingly, of course). The lack of reason makes me think she’s just trolling.

You must be trolling.

There is literally no ethical problem with surrogacy. Anywhere.

No the cardboard was a baby

It’s not a matter of opinion, it’s a matter of fact: Things aren’t as you choose to believe. It is a fact that the vast majority of rapists who are charged don’t get put in jail. It is a fact that many rape victims are put through hell when they try to press charges and that most never get brought to trial. I’d tell…

You’re obviously interested in making your points about how YOU think victims need to behave to satisfy YOUR desires rather than letting victims decide what they need to do. It’s another way of controlling us, we don’t know as well as you what’s right. Right?

I can see that you think you’re on the victim’s side and your intentions might ultimately be good, but your avenues for argument are not as a victim’s advocate at all. A victim’s advocate doesn’t focus on what the victim has done or should do to/with her abuser. You claim to understand the hell a victim goes through…

Do you think they really believe that though? That what they did wasn’t as bad as their victim’s make it out to be? It’s something I’ve wondered a lot. Of course they deny it and claim it wasn’t that bad, but do they actually convince themselves that it’s the truth?

That is a fascinating point (not sarcasm!). I also think that exact type of thinking contributes to people staying in abusive relationships and making excuses for their abusers. I suffer from excess sympathy. Unfortunate truth.

PEOPLE DID COME FORWARD BEFORE FOR BILL COSBY. They were told that no one would believe them so they should just shut up about it - and guess what, when people DID come out publicly, no one believed them, even after there were 40 of them. The Cosby situation should have been enough to demonstrate to you why women…

One thing we can do is stop pretending like false rape accusations are so common. We could start believing women who are brave enough to come forward with their stories of rape, even when they aren’t pressing charges. We can stop being okay with a world that prefers rape victims to remain silent to protect their…

You could learn from it, instead of dismissing the arguments as some kind of difference in opinion or misunderstanding. The people here are trying to help you understand why you’re wrong. It should be very clear by now. It is not because you are a man. It is not because you have friends who have been raped or a mother…

Why don’t you shut up and listen a little bit, buddy. These people are trying to teach you something that you have NO FUCKING IDEA ABOUT, OBVIOUSLY. You’ll learn a lot, and you clearly have a lot of learning to do.

Yeah, it’s that easy, buddy. Lucky for you, you’ll probably never understand what it’s like, and what you’re asking.