Thanks for the support! Good to know I’m not the only one who thinks he reeks of abuse.

All the information we need in order to suggest someone end the relationship is that one of the partners continuously threatens to kill himself anytime he doesn’t get his way. That is everything we need to know.

Wow, thanks for pointing that out. It’s pretty disgusting and scary but I appreciate your support here. Unfortunately, I’ve met a lot of people who think like him and it’s really frightening to realize that. I think that type of thinking is just the first step in manipulating someone to stay in an unhealthy/abusive…

Gross. No thank you.

Seriously, educate yourself on abuse. It doesn’t function in a normal healthy way by it’s very nature. That’s why those things you say don’t apply. You don’t know what you’re talking about.

Bullshit excuses. I’ll believe it when I see some examples of cured abusers. And its not “defense” if he’s manipulating people into submission so he never has to own up to his mistreatment of his loved ones.

I guess you’re not really reading what I’m saying. I did not say that experiencing one abusive relationship made me an expert. I did say that experiencing one and subsequently reading and researching abusive relationships and specifically abusers made me much more knowledgeable about the topic. And certainly more…

This comment makes me a little suspicious that you’re really trying to defend this guy. Are you AAA? Most of us reading this can see through this idea that he is only “subconsciously” guilting his girlfriend. It’s been brought to his attention repeatedly by both of the people he has admitted to abusing. He has…

I just want to emphasize that this idea that you should wait for your abuser to change is a huge part of the problem. We’re ingrained with these ideas, and often the abuser uses that to their benefit. They know you won’t leave because they’ll say “you didn’t even try!” “you didn’t give me a chance” “you said you loved…

It’s not just me - it’s the nature of abusive relationships. They all go through the same cycles, the same psychology.

This one really is broken, though. It’s unhealthy, and for her own mental health and future ability to have a healthy, loving relationship, she needs to get out. While she’s in the middle of the storm, she may feel like she loves him and wants to be with him (or at least it may seem that way to AAA), but I can tell…

Actually, that’s really not what gaslighting is at all. I’m confused about why you would think that, I thought you understood it. (But seriously, that’s not how gaslighting works. And also seriously, the article lists some legitimately passive aggressive phrases, so if you’re not getting that, you may have some…

Heated eyelash curler? They are very pretty, even straight though!

Well, at least that looks flat enough on either side of the road. The place near me has a hill on one side and a deep ravine on the other. I can’t imagine wanting to ride a bike among cars along a route like that, but at least this one isn’t officially called a bike route, to my knowledge.

Thanks for the perspective from a cyclist. It was pretty interesting to look up how much the bicycle laws vary from state to state, which I’m guessing adds to the confusion about how to go about sharing the road. The safety issue is totally valid and I can think of a place near me where this is an issue - no bike…

You seem to be pretty law-abiding and seem like you’re one of the good ones when it comes to bicyclists. I have one question about your post, though.

Unfortunately, Critical Mass really is the issue. It’s not really a friendly, harmless group bike ride (like bike parties, those exist). It’s a “protest” that seeks to intentionally wreck traffic for cars and make car drivers’ lives difficult. By its very nature, it’s a negative, law-breaky kind of thing that tries to…

You’d lose your shit if you tried to stop a car from (legally) moving and placed your bike inches from the car, so if it rolled forward even a tiny bit, it would “hit” you and give you an excuse to flip out?

This is where I knew he was trolling

She may have been “fine” but the mob of people (who are already breaking the laws) impeding her from moving (the false imprisonment charges) and surrounding her car were enough of a threat to her safety that her rolling forward an inch and bumping the bike he purposely placed against her car is completely justified.…