See, this is why its a problem - we have made having children something that is only economically feasible for people with means, which means people push it back later and later. Subsidized daycare, universal preschool, and paid maternal leave could make having a baby before you're 45 a lot more feasible.

But we are talking about population level risks and other considerations, because Sophie B. Hawkins (whose work I LOVE) has taken this advocacy position for becoming pregnant at 50. She isn't just saying, "This was right for me" and leaving it at that. She is saying things like, "I want women to really know they have…

First let me get it out of the way that I agree with you that attempting to carry a pregnancy to term (regarding of how conception occurs) is a matter of personal choice, and that women making that choice should consider their individual health as well as population studies.

Having said that, you are mistaken about…

I know this whole issue has really rubbed a raw nerve for you, but thank you for putting that information out there. When my body was the right age to conceive and bear children, I had no money and no partner, so I did what I thought was the responsible thing and waited. Now I have the means and a partner, and I have…

I had some funny stuff come back in my prenatal testing (hemoglobin D showed up on my electrophoresis) and not even my MFM knew what was up. I would recommend following up with Heme - they won't laugh at you and you should get some good answers. A quick scan of my resources shows me that an expert would probably be…

I'm sorry this has been so upsetting to you. :( I understand, but please don't think that 33 is the same as 50. I know tons, tons of women in my social circle who have had healthy pregnancies in their late 30's and early 40's. Many of them did not have partners at 33. 50 is problematic for a few biological reasons…

I don't really think I need a bio kid THAT bad...damn. That makes me sad.

Yeah, but the problem on here is that people would say, "BUT I TURNED OUT OKAY!" and ignore the population level data.

…who is talking about people being too old at age 30 to have kids? I'm honestly asking, because I haven't seen those comments. (Btw, 30 year old gal here in an LTR who is still not planning on having babies any time soon)

My parents are 40+ years older than me. They are a good 20 years older than my friends parents and stuck in social constructs that have been dead for decades, especially some seriously gnarly ones regarding women. It sucks. Many of the choices I've made in recent years are based on the fact that they are well into…

Nailed it!

33 is not old. Fuck, 40 is not old! You have at least 12 more years, and after that, there are still lots of options.

I remember being the lone voice of dismay in my family when the McCaughey septuplets were announced. Humans just aren't designed to have litters.

STORY TIME.

My wife haaaaates "at all costs."

It only takes a family one time of watching my husband break a patient's ribs before they rescind their whole, "save my 96 year old mother AT ALL COSTS"

I'm with you enska. There's some serious shaming going on that is hitting home for someone who didn't managed to sort their shit out in their twenties while also finding time to have a child. I still want to though and don't want to feel irresponsible and shamed for doing so. Solidarity my friend. It should be…

I think under 45 is reasonable for most women.

Privilege aside ("you have to freeze your eggs", etc.), for me, the most troubling aspect of this piece is the suggestion that we gals can birth our kiddos at any time, whenever we're feeling calmer, cooler, and more collected. We can't. Pregnancy at 50 is an anomaly; as many commentators have noted, it carries…

Why are the most common concerns being voiced here that she won't get to see her grandkids?

Christ here comes the guilt again of not even WANTING to have kids in general and having that choice be the end of the world for my mother. She won't see grandkids cause I'm not going to HAVE them. I'd like to think people…