But being attracted to people who are athletic is honestly not creepy in the way that being attracted to women who write is. Because athleticism is a much more tangible quality. It literally physically manifests itself. And you can go out and be sporty together. But when you’re alone with a writer, their writing isn’t…

“Women are no different!” Actually, women are different. Because women have to be able to empathize with men. For men, empathizing with women is optional.

I completed a PhD program in literature in which about half of the students were also published writers or novelists. Because it wasn’t an MFA program, there were no creative writing classes. Instead professors held “salons”. They were all male even though half of the students in the program are female. When women…