I have rug doctored without vacuuming. Basically, you just do the whole area twice instead of once, and change out the dirty water more often. But it worked—and on a 10-year-old never-vacuumed white rug no less (was moving out—landlord had never seen a rug so clean). Oh, and fuck Dyson.

“Depressed people aren’t a waste; suicide isn’t a wasted life. It’s a fucking tragedy.”

“My brother has schizophrenia. His life has value.”

I’m so sorry, Cry, Cry until your nose is red and eyes are red and snot is all over the pillow. Just cry it out, and be kind to yourself. Writing a eulogy sounds like a very sweet tribute—you can read it aloud then maybe tuck it away behind a picture frame of a small picture of our cat or near her favorite spot to sun…

Lean On is infinitely better than than This Ones for You, and frankly its not any more of a rip off than a lot of EDM artists re-mix riffs from other songs—its transformative enough to be its own (albeit sub-par) creation (I like Guetta, but this is def not his best showing and sounds tossed together at the last…

I have a love-hate relationship with Taylor Swift’s new hair. Looks amazing and very fashion-forward in some photo-shoots, looks super dried out and scraggly-split-ends in others.

Twice tonight I emailed my ex.

I am 40 years old. I moved out when I was 20, and have lived alone fully supporting myself ever since. I go home a few times a year to visit (I live across the country). Invariably, I am treated like I am a still a child. They walk into my ‘guest room’ without knocking. They coerce-force me to visit relatives when we…

If you live near a Nordstroms, the ladies there will measure you for a bra for free, no obligation. This is the MOST IMPORTANT step in bra shopping—-knowing your proper size. Do not guess. Neiman Marcus has a great rep for bra measuring too, and you are under no obligation to buy. Once you have your size, then you’ll…

Wow, that a nightmare, You have every right to go to your rent board. And to call the city and do an inspection. If you need things like working smoke detectors, that is a very quick way to get that accomplished.

You are right. i just broke up with him tonite in person. What the future holds, who can say. I think i may cry for a while though. I did love him.

Yes, 100%. He actually came over tonight, and we talked, and I broke up with him. It was so sad my heart is breaking, but he was a total gentleman about it and now it is over. I am lonely and scared, but in my heart it is what i had to do. Thanks for your note.

DanceswithPeepes, an Update: He came over, ready for sex (so ready). I said we need to talk first. Did exactly what you said. It was good and necessary and very honest conversation. I cried He cried. We love each other. But finally, I said—I am breaking up with you.This just isn’t working. You are distant, and you…

‘no poo’ is not for everyone, but I do it for my curly hair and it made a HUGE difference for me. Part of what works for me though is changing the type of conditioner I use and a switch it up- I ended up getting Nioxin 3 and that is my primary conditioner, because it is very light, voluminous and cleansing and does…

Wow, thanks for sharing that. I think it is really tempting to fall into the ‘this is as good as it gets’ and not risk stepping into the void (especially when the sexual compatibility is really good); sounds like things really worked out for you when you decided to move on. That gives me a glimmer of hope.

Yes, This is some solid advice. It will be a tough talk, but a necessary one. Thank you. I copied everything you wrote in a word file so I won’t forget it.

Thanks for responding. The romance is definitely still there. He comes ith me to the hospital if I beg him to, but he has been a bit better about that lately, though he can be very cold and aloof when i am very very sick. I just think that is how he copes with it. I wasn’t sick when we started dating—so it;s not like…

Ugh, This is a dumb post that will get stuck way down the greys—But my boyfriend of 2.5 years is coming over soon, and I have literally been crying all last night and all this morning because I just think that it is time for us to break up. And I love him SO much, and I know he loves me SO much. We are way compatible…

I have the same trouble. I am actually devout Catholic from a Catholic family, but our family’s surname happens to be a very common and well-known Jewish name (it happened accidentally way back at Ellis Island). Moreover, I look extremely ‘stereotypical Jewish’—the Barbara Streisand nose, the black curly hair, fair…

You CAN get herpes even with a condom It is not spread by seminal fluid like HIV, but by skin-to-skin contact of any part of the genital region. Which makes it extra scary. I really don;y mean to scare you off of online dating or anything, but really, it was the LAST thing I thought would happen to me. I now have a BF…