Same here. Was always really bugged with the original findings.

I've never been able to do this. It was more of an issue when I was a nanny and would 'parent' in a way that was different than the parents. When they would advocate for spanking or lying or bribery, I just handed my resignation letter. I spent my whole childhood being told I was wrong, defective, stupid, ugly. I was…

I would totally do that for a living if it paid better than what I have to do to keep the lights on (very unsexy nerdy things).

I collect books about 'womanhood' and sexuality from the 20s-60s and they are full of awesome and interesting insight into the mores of the time.

+10 (not that it changes anything but +10) :)

It doesn't feel very good to think something is happening only to you. Certain life experiences are more common than we think like being a virgin (having no sex) in your twenties. The key part here is 'having little to no sex' because that is not quantified AT ALL but I have the privilege of knowing this because I get…

But the last bit about pursuing your passion and how that will place yourself in the path of compatible women who get to see you at your happiest works! My autistic boyfriend says to you: 'Most people are pretty close to meat robots, they are very predictable if you know what to look for'. Of course he is someone who…

My principal partner said: 'Tell him your boyfriend didn't start having sex until he was 31!!' There you go! Happy Birthday kawaiikaiju!

Ouch. Please do not refer to yourself as 'aging' if you are 29. I went to read your profile since I could not tell if you are a 'cute beast' girl or boy! The attitude 'I will never have sex' is a common one amongst virgins. It is also frequent in guys who have not had sex for a while like divorced men. But it's not a…

If it gets worse I don't have time to invest in that. But when someone asks me if I want to have sex with a certain person... it's not that simple. There's wanting to have sex with someone and wanting to have sex with someone for the 10th time. If the latter is what I feel, then I say yes! If it's the former it's…

I mostly counsel from a place of sexual experience after 30 years of paying way too much attention to this aspect of life. There are stats and there are the lived lives of people who started having sex at 28 and did just as well in their continuing life as the rest of us. Starting is not equal to succeeding anyway and…

I sooo don't rely on stats because starting is not synonymous with doing. I wish we could ask more mature qualitative questions rather than simple quantitative question... like when did you become sexually active? When do you feel you reached sexual maturity? When did you become happy with your sex life? When was your…

Kawaiikaiju I also wrote that it's never too late to start :)

To other commenters not OP: Argh! Please stop using the phrase 'lose my virginity'. It (and you) are not a commodity. You can say 'start having sex' as in I have... or I haven't... or I do... or I don't have sex.

Autism is misunderstood and even if you are in it 24/7 (spouse + his kids are) it's hard to explain to others what it means. Acquaintance's questions are mostly filled with fear and rumors and misunderstandings. I have no problem explaining how it is in real life but I also stress that it is different for every person…

*hug* sechavar.

I thought that Long's post was a good way to break the silence surrounding children who have various issues (mostly un/miss-diagnosed) and are trying to navigate the care system. Her story is a firsthand account of her challenges and normally women's account of their life experience is not promoted in mainstream media…

I believe what you say Sparhauk but I see more detrimental use of penis-related sex toys than proper use. As someone who teaches cock bondage, I sort of advocates for doing something that could be dangerous if done in the wrong way so I will always have a super careful attitude towards CBT/chastity tools. Being in a…

I find it hard to think that any decision a woman makes is not entirely linked to her desire for quality of life for her entire family. Abortion is that bridge nobody ever expects to cross so obviously there is the added stress but it is rather personal and none of anybody else's business. It is linked to a huge list…

I am also living on a very low food budget and I have a hubby and a teenager to feed (That's the equivalent of 5 if you are keeping count) but the only way we can survive is if we cook everything ourselves. I am not kidding here it is tremendously time consuming and also requires skills that are super long practiced.…