I find www.the-pool.com pretty good - it’s UK based but some of my favourite writers are on there eg Sali Hughes (who was a homeless teenager and went on to become a journalist, author, and founder of a charity supporting people on low incomes with hygiene and beauty products. She’s awesome.)

I’d like this, if in practice it didn’t give the men in retail and easy ride and pile double the workload on their female colleagues... we need to work out a way of depriving male leaders/CEOs any influence over our pay packets or employment status.

The grim comments in pending, justifying this as ‘kink’ without getting dismissed, really prove your point. Especially when in response to commenters who have already said they’re distressed due to abuse. I won’t ungrey them by replying directly, and flagging does fuck all lately on Jez. So gross.

Aww that sounds sweet! Thanks 

Cool, thank you very much!!

Ah I see! Thanks for explaining, I did wonder if it was some sort of beauty pageant event. It’s interesting how some social rituals just never die - but I guess it’s hard to stand up against these things without being accused of being a jealous killjoy and so on. Campaigning to win something like this does sound very o…

What exactly is a homecoming queen? Do you have to nominate yourself or do other people nominare them? I know I could Google, but as we don’t have that tradition in the UK I love hearing stories about US high schools. They seem far more community-driven than ours re sports and events - we could barely get a school disc…

Ugh I dunno about a chill day.... from my few trips to Amsterdam, anything baked makes me trip my tits off all weekend from a comparatively tiny amount of resin. I can’t remember most of my birthday weekend thanks to one small cookie on the Saturday - smoking is way more chill and wears off quickly in comparison (for m…

Agreed re societal permission- how many teenage women do we think were coerced into anal sex by their partners in the 80s, compared to now? I.e. after the explosion of online porn, SATC etc which meant discussions on anal were *everywhere* for that many years....? Porn has to become more and more extreme to get noticed…

Sorry to hear about your experiences, and thanks for sharing them. I’m tired of Jez promoting harmful bullshit just because a woman is involved in it - women are just as capable of sexual abuse or facilitating that abuse as men, including in porn. 

Thank you for telling your story, and reminding the writer of the real-world impact of their cool girl bullshit. This used to be a feminist site, but lately it seems it’s swamped with male commenters and the writers use ‘feminist’ in the marketing sense rather than actually promoting the advancement of women’s rights. …

Agree. This is nothing like fleshlights or dildos - I’ve seen too many documentaries where the sick fucks who order them are making them look as juvenile as possible, including tiny proportions and school uniforms. It’s a slippery slope.  

The problem is that by including people with those views can mean that the event’s steering goes completely off. For example people talking their shit unrepresentative opinions to the press in the name of the march (and press LOVE to interview men at these), and drowning out actual women’s voices. I’m currently fightin…

This is the best piece of writing I’ve seen on Jezebel in a long time. Measured, full of feeling but absent of childish insults; if only some of the other jez political coverage was as classy.

One problem is thst others expect women and girls to be people-pleasing. I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve had difficult customers and VIPs dumped on me at the office, snd if I don’t nod and smile and give them exactly what they want it’s somehow my fault. They even changed my role to include customer managem…

I’ve been a bit dubious about SNARL’s motives for a while now - a tiny local charity getting £££’s from the national press attention is going to defend it’s cash cow for all its worth. I saw a facebook post stating how they needed more money so they could give up work and focus on this full-time. That and the fact that…

Exactly. I’d always been a dog owner before I got my cats, and it’s insane to me that I should suddenly kick them out in the morning to go kill wildlife and shit in my neighbour’s gardens. My cats are just as domesticated and well-trained as dogs. They have 6-monthly checks at the vet who says they’re the perfect weigh…

Ugh yes! Kickass was an unwatchable cringefest and hated her ever since. 

If it’s any consolation, many of us Brits would ve insulted that they’re the tracks they chose for this playlist! Such junk! And frankly it’s time for Paul McCartney to retire.

Yeah, we’re very lucky to have a garden in this area, we lived in flats for 15 years before this move. It bugs me when people get arsey about having pets stuff around - especially well-cared for cats, its not as if they’re a noise nuisance to your neighbours !