I don't think anyone is doing that here. The dad shared his perspective that the hate crimes were not religiously motivated. This discussion is about whether or not that is a true or reasonable statement. Nothing to do with blaming parenting for what happened.

I’ve been thinking about my reaction to reading the article, reading some of the comments, and then subsequently learning that Tanner Cohen is gay. My reaction was that of an ignorant, privileged male with a persecution complex. I learn more about myself by reading this blog and engaging with commenters and I think…

Chicken butt?

I agree with everything you wrote. But I thought we were discussing the quotes in this article. I don’t think his use of the term “girls,” taken in context, has the intent or effect of infantilizing women. The name of the blog has that effect though. If a winner must be declared, it is you.

I do consider a person’s race relevant to whether, and to what degree, I would characterize their statements, actions or beliefs as racist.

Well, if he also existentially infantilizes men by referring to them as “boys,” I think that matters if we are trying to ascribe a particular belief or attitude to the speaker. My experience that adult gay men frequently refer to other men as boys is not based on a small sample size, so maybe it’s an aberration or…

In my experience, gay men (like Tanner Cohen whose comments are the subject of this discussion) use the term “boys” to refer to other men rather frequently. Have you had the same experience?

Nothing gave me that impression. My question is whether his sexual orientation is relevant context for this article. would you interpret his comments about women differently if he were straight? I would, and maybe I’m wrong to do so. i understand rape culture to be the product of misogynistic attitudes of straight…

Certainly, but I think it’s more nuanced than that.

Tanner Cohen is gay. Does that alter your perception of the degree of chauvinism and male privilege that this case study demonstrates? I've never heard of these people, but learned from some of the comments and a quick search that Mr. Cohen is openly gay. That is not mentioned in the article, and maybe it shouldn't…