Yes I also tend to go sexless for very long periods if I am not seeing someone regularly.

I love all of this advice and 100% agree. I try to give a second chance, always, unless it was bad in a “I can’t recover from this and will recoil at your touch from now on” way.

I was on a date with a guy and Jonathan Franzen was brought up. I was like, “I have never read him because I people I trust tell me that his treatment of women is at worst misogynistic and at best woefully misguided and confusingly inaccurate.” Then I made some point about why men should read more women authors - I…

AMEN. I am working on the “stop going along with it” thing — here’s hoping I get there fast. My problem is that I am a woman who so far has only slept with men, and while I am a badass feminist in most of my life, I am way too sensitive to male fragility when it comes to sex. I gotta get over that STAT.

I’m in a relatively big city, but it’s like NYC, LA, or San Francisco where I think there is much more of a dating culture. Honestly, being a young woman in a city with more men that women, finding dates is very easy for me but finding dates with people I actually want to go on dates is slowly killing me. Oh well! I…

Well I’m happy to hear that that instinctual feeling develops over time! I think I am starting to develop it but often tell myself not to rush to conclusions, judge people, etc., even though my instincts are usually pretty spot-on. So, hopefully with age I just get more comfortable trusting my instincts.

Yes definitely talking about what you’re into is key! But that can be sort of stilted the first time you sleep with someone because you haven’t fully learned how to effectively communicate with them. I just have a hard time believing that some people never have bad sex once they reach a certain point in life if they…

Genuine question about this advice on bad sex: how can you just “stop having bad sex” when you don’t always know beforehand what the sex will be like?

Really appreciate that Christina Aguilera shows up during the Drag Race montage as if she’s one of the contestants . . . (0:20)

I love this. All too often politicians lack a real and palpable sense of empathy, and I have no doubt that someone like McSpadden will bring some much-needed understanding, compassion, and fire to local politics (and hopefully beyond).

I appreciate your thoughts on this film, and it sounds great.

The difference is prison and a state-run psychiatric hospital. While most psych hospitals aren’t a huge step up from prison, it’s almost definitely preferable. If the difference is risk life in prison and get a trial or definitely get life in prison on a plea, then it’s probably worth a trial.