Two things here. I'm not saying they actually want those things to happen to them. I tried to be clear about that, but I tend to ramble. I'm saying it is a safe way to fantasize about being in a sexually exciting relationship. In real porn, the woman is unrealistically skilled and "bendy" (to use a word from…

Yeah I know what you mean. I think I talk about it a lot because it seems so hopeless to me a lot of the time. It's why I had to leave that job. There just seemed like absolutely no solution at all. People always say things like, "we should give them better treatment" which is totally 100% true. At the same time,…

Yeah, I've had to work with mentally ill preteens. Not in any capacity that had me treating their mental illness or anything like that. I just had to teach them math and stuff. So by no means an expert here! OK, disclaimer aside, I agree with the "it's complicated" answer you are trying to come up with.

Yes, that is the controlling part. Really, that sort of thing can be adventuresome and kinky. But that's not why it has broad appeal. The reason this is so popular is because it gives the woman a kinky exciting experience in a perfectly SAFE way. The woman does not have to actually DO anything other than what the…

Yes that confused me too. I read it several times before I understood what it meant to say. Also the "representing him" line in the last sentence of the first paragraph reads as if the girls had marked their Barbies and drawings with things representing the private investigator which, combined with the question…

I don't know that "disturbing" necessarily has anything to do with justice. Not sure what point the other poster was trying to make, but I can tell you why I personally find it disturbing that they only served for five years and then apparently had nonviolent mostly normal lives afterwards. Because you'd assume (or…

Yes, that movie was amazing and also terrifying and haunting and insightful and it really really bothers me to this day despite the fact that I saw it over a decade ago. Also, it shows what sort of depth and beauty Peter Jackson is capable of. I mean, I loved LOTR as much as anyone, but if he is capable of making a…

Really?

It's because 50 Shades is to porn what Boy Band crushes are to lust. It's a tame way for groups of young girls to get together and explore what could seem like powerful and scary feelings that they aren't quite ready to handle on their own just yet.

Has it been confirmed that Oliver himself is not going to take the gig? I'd love to have him host.

BTW, I'm ALWAYS looking for a homoerotic 90s throwback.

Selena Gomez sounds like she is maturing in a healthy way- if you can judge such a thing by a couple of isolated quotes (and yea, I know you really can't). But what I mean is, what she says is a healthy way to look at a young, passionate first romance. I felt similar when I was an older teen- love can be so intense…

Whoa. After reading your post, I just realized that maybe I'm in menopause?

yes that is all true. However, I just attended a lecture on caterpillars, and let me tell you, existence could be hell of a lot worse.

It just looks miserable. My mom rushes outside in the winter several times a day. We'll be doing something, then suddenly she's peeling off her sweater and standing in front of the fridge. She's says it feels like sitting right in front of a fire or sticking her head in a blazing oven. Just sounds horrible. And…

Thanks. Wonder why they didn't say that.

Who is Erika?

I'm THAT girl. But I mean, I like them dirty really, not dirty in some moral way. Although that's sometimes OK too depending on the guy, what I mean is I want them to look like they just stepped off the farm or came from a construction zone or have grease all over them. Oh my, it's absurd. I objectify waaaayyy too…

You can be not hot and still be sexy. Some not hot people have charisma. Others have a personality that make them sexy. I agree about Benedict, but I can see why people find him sexy as Sherlock- those curls and eyes and the brilliance mixed with vulnerability plus bromance. Those things are sexy. Benedict himself…

If jean companies would make jeans that actually fit- around the waist and hips without bulging out in front or hanging so low I need a belt- and make the properly fitting jeans cost less than 50 bucks, then yes I would wear them more. I like skinny jeans sometimes and I like lowrisers sometimes. But most of the…