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Yes. And when I was like, “That’s a very fucked up thing to say” he didn’t even try that hard to backtrack. I was kind of offended he didn’t think he needed to un-dog whistle in my company. “You know what I mean, everyone has a different background and so I have to adjust to that for the first time.”

STEP RIGHT UP, LADIES! HAVE I GOT AN ASSHOLE FOR YOU.

Soooooo emotional. And believe you me: when we were dating, he tried to make me feel like I was the irrational/emotional one. But I’m too old and tired for that shit to work.

yeah that’s some Lost Boy nonsense

Yas. This is how I felt after my last breakup. The most annoying part about it were all the weird messages he sent, trying to dramatically drag the thing out and rehash all the ways we weren’t right together. You want to move on? Well then shoo. I am busy.

I’m going to double down on the “join a thing” part, then, if you’re on the fence! I used MeetUp.com back in the stone age to meet people in a group setting, and a friend of mine did an adult art class and met a longterm partner. Another met her (Korean!) boyfriend volunteering in a after school Youth outreach…

I didn’t get to know him well enough to confirm, but I wouldn’t be surprised.

He also had a PhD in Anthropology, so I want to emphasize that there is no limit to the self-awareness deficit in privileged men.

I literally had a (white) man tell me, a white woman, that he had to think hard about whether or not he wanted to “seriously” date me, because he “never” dated white women, and he implied that he’d put a lot more effort into dating me because I was white, and that he wasn’t certain he had that kind of energy. Which…

You will never regret getting the Wamsutta duvet cover from Bed Bath and Beyond (search for coupons—BBB has TONS of coupons, so you can always get the price down), and you will never go back to a top sheet after it. I ordered an extremely decent duvet from Amazon for $40. It all came in around $80, and it was worth…

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Yay! You’ve decided you want to start dating, and this is a positive thing.

Yeah, I would say, based on this comment’s follow-up, that it’s much safer not to go. Alternatively, if you want your MOM to contact your cousin, as though the idea occurred to her and she hadn’t run it by you AT ALL, and be like, “OOOoooOOOooo Mr. Dad can’t come, would it be alright if I asked my Whippersnapper?”…

Fingers crossed!

Totally a pain in the ass, but chiming in to note that finding a roommate for the duration of the lease is DEFINITELY the easiest and most cost-effective option. Sure, they will almost certainly annoy you, but this whole situation is annoying. And frankly, your ex sounds annoying, too, so good riddance to THAT…

After sadly watching my french press coffee go cold every single damn day of my life and resorting to the blasphemy of microwaving my second cup, I have bought an insulated french press!

Thanks, Zukka! <3 Joanna unbanned me the same day as I emailed her though she left me in the grays, but a couple of weeks later I was banned again. 

I agree with you 100% about the community, and it makes me sad, too. It’s also very misguided to write Kinja off. The Gawker sites have rarely been read for their content alone—it’s always been for the snark PLUS the reaction/the commentary. There’s a lot of great content on the Internet, and I know that I very rarely…

That would be a much better system, but alas. I don’t think they’re very much concerned with Kinja anymore. The founding Jezebelers were really invested in the commentariat (though often super problematic re: their engagement with the commentary, NEVER FORGET MIZ JENKINS http://persephonemagazine.com/2011/03/how-i-beca…