Hey, you don’t have to be sorry. Your gut is exactly what we all need to talk about. Why is your gut more comfortable feeling that they were ignorant rather than careless? You aren’t trying to excuse them, so don’t. What are the chances that among three educated, adult women in 2018, a copy editor, and graphic…

Hi, Friend. It’s that intersection of misogyny and indifference, and I’ll even take the unpopular view- sometimes in surrounding oneself with and mimicking the culture of The Other, you gain some of their worst attributes. Black boys come up often with many, many Black women- Grandmas, cousins, aunties, play cousins.…

Glad you were successful. You either know your fandom will place you in an ocean of white people and feel comfortable with that, or know that and supplement your activities with stuff that provide interactions with Black girls. I was always the only, or one of up to three, Black girls in all of my academic classes. I…

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Why not? Attraction to Whiteness has many manifestations. As White culture is postured as ‘generic American’ culture (in the US) you can’t go a day without being immersed in media and norms White people care about. When you go out of your way to surround yourself with ‘like-minded’ people and notice you’re the only…

Agreed. But that’s the *new* ad. It’s a strategy.

No, friend. They are adults in America. They have the internet. They knew this could be offensive and did it anyway. That’s what privilege is: my desire to do what I want is more important than anyone else’s inconvenience or pain. And look what it got them. Oh sure, the ad was taken down. But now the ad made it to…

I just plain don’t believe it. It’s a cop out. If a dude says, ‘they don’t like me’, it shuts down the conversation without determining if that person ever had a true attraction to Black women and/or ever truly attempted to connect with us. Similar interests/physical proximity is gigantic in how high schoolers get…

Is this a chicken and egg situation? I have met plenty of dudes who say they hang out with and date White people because they, too,“like” stuff that codes White. But they never seem to realize they like that stuff *because* it affords them access to Whiteness. Can you genuinely love the Cranberries? Sure. Can you…

Ha! Afrocentric art was everywhere in Oakland at that time. I still have my OG red/black/green leather medallion I bought from Pier 39 way back then. But give N’Jobu a break sis, maybe he had Afrocentric art because he was, you know, actually African?!

He did mean Okoye but I didn’t want to wreck his flow. Shuri’s like 16 and will design & mechanize the perfect man when she’s ready ;)

And because my ass is all about assumptions, I believed they were married during the movie before I’d watched the deleted scene. But what do I know? I’m #teammagnetowasright and Killmonger was exactly the antihero I wanted him to be. The misogyny seemed to be  (sorry for the pun) a heavy-handed way to show his ONLY…

Whoa- plot twist! Courting the hotep vote completely went over my head.

Friend, lots of people, including around here, really hung on to that misogyny angle in a way that surprised me. I’m a Black woman and I took it as that part as a way to establish which side the audience should root for. It’s noted he’s killed hundreds of people, likely lots of men offscreen, right? But it’s the few…

Thanks. It’s a shame that we have so many stories, every day, times a day, that require we say stuff like this.

I’m terrified of rats. I imagine if I ever see a rat in person, I would break out and run for my life, screaming, shaking and praying. I wouldn’t harass it, be rude to it, call the police on it or follow it around a store. Friend, let’s stop helping them spread the lie that they’re so afraid of us and fearful of what…

“I’m thinking more of a global context, not just an American context.”

Oh, we’re doing the copy and paste thing? Cool. But I gotta take them out of order, hope you don’t mind.

Yep, that’s exactly what could happen. Isn’t that what happened in our last election? Despite swearing up and down this monster had no chance, his candidacy was a fluke and they had pure hearts, somehow the majority of White voters were summoned to the voting booths and compelled to push the button for Trump. How’d…

Whoa, you just #ALLHAIRMATTERS’d my imaginary scenario. That’s gotta be on the list! Oh I get it, it’s satire. You surely know that a White woman touching a Black woman’s hair is not comparable to a White woman touching a non-Black woman’s hair because of the history of our hair being stigmatize, fetishized, policed,…