Meanwhile I’m still scared about unplanned pregnancy and I’m 29.

And for the love of god, get a flu shot.

You can lament the state of your life without it being disrespectful to people who have it worse. The fact that you are even aware says a lot of good things about your character.

As soon as Ohio gets off her shift she will join the and fray whoop the shit out of both of those state-shaped retirement homes.

I’m here for this. It used to strike me as odd that my grandmother, a black woman born in the 30's, had a collection of Mammy and Prissy dolls. Now I’m seeing that this was probably because she wanted to honor women who looked like her and broke down barriers, in whatever way that was. Duh.

This is the shit I’m working on right now, and have been for at least a couple years now. It’s really tough, and of course a big part of what makes it so difficult is that you necessarily have to struggle through it alone — if you do it while leaning on anyone else, it’s just not going to work, because, like you say,…

I get to the point where I sometimes think that people who constantly try to discourage ladies from traveling alone are just ... jealous.

48 and single, with no plans on that changing, and actually, thank god. I love my life and everything I’ve built and accomplished and have seen, by myself and for myself. Pity parties because you went to a movie by yourself are just sad. And not because you had to go to a movie by yourself, but because you couldn’t…

I feel the same way. I know so many worthy women that are single (ranging from late 20s to late 50s in age) and maybe one worthy guy who is single and the guys is actually just in his late 20s.

I say to hell with it! Get a weird massage if you want to!

I am moments away from turning 40 and you described me. About 8 years ago I just stopped “looking” and started just doing things I wanted to do some times with friends some times alone. And it hasn’t been the end of my world and I enjoy traveling alone (which mostly people don’t get and think I am faking) maybe it…

Right? A lot of times all you can do is grit your teeth and trust when others can see the beauty of who you are because you just can’t right now.

“It will happen for you one day” is one of the nuttier things well-meaning people say to me. It’s strange, like saying “you will win the lottery one day” or possibly “you will get hit by lightning one day”. I mean... even if I WERE to meet someone who is the marrying kind, that’s not necessarily a happy ending? Some…

I met my main squeeze when I was 36. But even if you don’t find a life partner, that’s okay. You are amazing, and you are enough.

My post didn’t post, so again I’ll try. Or maybe I should let the ether swallow up my angsty comment? I feel very, very lonely right now and I really should give insta a time out because of everybody toasting and drinking and kissing and looking all pretty and giving new year greetings. It’s making me feel worse about…

This is good.

I am 60 years old. In case it helps, I’m going to tell you what I know.

When the first guy I dated after years of being alone (because of weird emotionally abusive almost relationship fucked me up) ghosted me, I was shocked by how devastated I was. It had only been 3 dates. It wasn’t like I was in love. You perfectly described that feeling. It was shocking and abrasive. I’ve had trouble…

“What I’ve actually learned is that the work of keeping your path clear is a continual process, one so all-consuming that you may not ever have the time to look up and see where you’re going”

Anyone who dares to mention how they’re a good ally and should be appreciated is going to get their arse handed to them.