I really get what both sides are saying here. I think Gallus' point is that, until a larger group of people who are not a part of the minority affected care as much about the murder, degradation and undervaluing of EVERYONE, the power structure is going to remain the same. Until those *with* the privilege eschew it…

Just FYI, your link at the bottom says "Chained Wimbledon: The Joys And Perils Of Women's Tennis". Pretty sure that's the wrong word.

Yes. There are 1 year olds who could do that. But if you were to ask me which is the more likely scenario: a 1 year old putting pebbles in her vagina immediately followed by the moment a 7 year old coincidentally decided to look at her sister's vagina OR a 7 year old lying about having put pebbles in her 1 year old…

Why are we acting like this is only about her touching her 1 year old sister's vagina when she was 7 and not also about emotionally coercing her sister into sleeping in her bed and then masturbating while she sleeps? And about paying her sister in candy to give her long kisses on the lips? And about paying her sister…

Thank you. And here I thought I was the only person with this sort of stance. I oppose the death penalty. Not because I think all human life is sacred, or because I don't think anyone deserves to die. There are some seriously terrible human beings out there who 100% deserve to die, probably quite painfully.

'I just don't agree that exclusive owernship of suffering is an effective vehicle for change, if we actually care about people getting off their ass and changing the way power operates in this country.'

just lazy stupid selfish scared people valuing their own safety and comfort more highly than the suffering of someone that doesn't look like anyone they know, someone from a world they don't think they'll ever have to live in.

This will be the only time in her life that is true and I hope someone sits her down and explains the dangers of Facebook immediately.

Scared people try to rationalize a threatening situation they feel they can't control (I.e. dangerous police). They tell themselves "it can't happen to me" because; I know the correct way to act, the "right" clothes to wear, the best language to use, I'm not poor and black, ect. Blaming the victim is a way to separate…

If you're talking grocery store pick up, I don't really think it's that hard. I'm married and don't cruise grocery stores, but I will say that the produce section is super schmoozy. I'm always talking to strangers about how the fruit is, what's in season, you think this melon is ripe or over ripe? Don't just do it…

Yeah, maybe you're right. I don't post very often and I hope that this makes even a little bit of sense. I'm a black man in his early 20s who has lived in the center of St. Louis my entire life. This is a strange city in that for being as big as it is, the mentality often times seems like that of small stereotypically…

I like your carrots suggestion. Who cares about it being blatant? And both liking carrots is probably better to build a possible relationship on than looks. Although, looks are important, I find that if we both like carrots, I'll probably start thinking you're hot soon enough.

It isn't just about recognizing basic human rights, it's about recognizing privilege. White people (myself included) often don't even realize how every aspect of our lives has been carefully constructed to allow for success (barring situations such as poverty, abuse, etc). I think it comes down to a lack of empathy…

I would totally go for the carrot-conversation-man, that situation sounds adorable.

I strongly disagree. As a black man living in America, this is about ALL of us. Those of us that decry tragedy, and those of us who are oblivious. Those of us who are active in trying to change things, and those of us who are complicit in it. Let us not forget; there are white people and people of other races people…

The statement, "This isn't just a black issue," is probably being read as, "This isn't a black issue."

That single, "just," is being omitted from your words so I don't understand the said response to your comment. That said, if I'm understanding correctly, essentially institutions of power are oppressive in most ways…

This is hard for me, because I owe a lot to this company for hiring me in the first place, but what's going on here isn't OK.

It seems like there's a simple solution: don't allow html in burner posts. Only text. It seems like this would be super easy.