How? The burden shouldn't be on women to communicate that they're not interested, but also, how do people actually expect men to ensure that at an advance is welcome before initating contact with a woman? Is waiting for a woman to initiate contact the only safe option?

I'm not sure most people view grocery shopping as a no-socialization laser-focused race against the clock. I do a lot of my socializing bumping into people out and about while running errands. But even if the supermarket scene is as horrible as you say, I'm not really sure what sort of leisure activities you have in…

Like Claire's husband, I sort of do and don't get it at the same time. The threat part totally makes sense, the fear of either responding too favorably and encouraging him to follow you back to your car, or responding too coldly and prompting frustrated violence. The objectification part makes sense too, the feeling…

Point noted, it can be tough to say shit right when talking about issues this big on the fly. Thank you for helping me clarify.

I didn't say "but what about white people?" I said, you're blaming the wrong people, because you're not blaming enough people.

Understand that to others, this is very real, hits very close to home, and is not about you.

It seems I have not expressed myself very well. My suggestion and solution was, get mad at more people, and make them uncomfortable by targeting them directly rather than building strawmen that they won't self-identify with. Don't let "I like black people and wish someone would do something" be an excuse. Condemn…

I work in the legal profession. Take of that what you will.

Well, it does appear that readers are taking my comments that way, and I agree that's a not very helpful direction to steer the conversation. And I recognize that there are plenty of individual bigots on display in comment threads like this. The point I was trying to make (unsuccesfully, apparently) is that individual…

"Aren't any" was overstating it, "aren't many" is what I meant to say. But my point is, while active racists might be steering the ship in the institutions that perpetuate violence, they aren't the wind filling its sails. Complacency, ignorance, and laziness empower police to prey on the weak, and dialogue that…

It would be nice to live in a world where people made other people's pain and suffering their business. Unfortunately, experience shows that we do not live in that world, we never have and never will. We care for, we fight for people that we identify with, and while we may not actively wish anyone else harm, we sure…

I'm literally saying the exact opposite of that. I'm not in any way asking to be congratulated, nor am I saying #notallwhitepeople. What I am saying, is that trying to stop police brutality by telling people "stop hating black people" doesn't really accomplish much when police brutality does not spring from conscious…

So basically, if I'm not black fuck me either way? Care about this, but don't dare think affects me in any way? Nice pitch, good luck.

And that's shitty to say, come on. This isn't just a black issue, this is a person issue, a human issue. Fuck the brutal fascist shits that make us unsafe in our streets, fuck the culture that makes those in power above reproach for violence they do to those they're supposed to protect. If this isn't about you and me…

It's not about you.

We shouldn't have to explain why...

Gawker Media does something really special, with its commitment to annonymity and privacy for its users and contributors. As has been mentioned elsewhere, logging IPs won't necessarily do anything to alleviate your porn-gif problem, but will do much to destroy the ability of Gawker to meaningfully protect its…

For what it's worth, it sounds like food insecurity is a broader issue than "hunger," in that it encompasses lack of access to nutritious food, not necessarily lack of access to food. Notably, "poor people" in the US often have much higher rates of obesity than people with greater resources; obviously they are not…

Cuz mother of vinegar. Probiotics, yo.

Not "mother's ___", but rather, mothers.