I wish I could offer more than just words. This broke my heart, I’m so so sorry you’re living like this. It’s not you. You can never hear that too much. You are not the cause. I hope you and your son can get away and find a better life, because you both deserve better. If you’re doing the hard shit to avoid him being…

It honestly blows my mind how similar so many of the stories we all tell are. Mine was a master of passive aggressive, I got the loud dishes more than once. Asking what was wrong or offering to do it if it was so bad led to screaming and intimidation. Fuck these man babies.

I do the same. Mine came home from a therapy appointment drunk and hit me while I held our 2 year old. I busted my lip on his head and he had a bruise from it. Then the monster shattered a car window on us when I tried to leave. Little man thankfully wasn’t cut but I’ll never forget his silhouette through that…

“But there were no bruises.”

I used to beg mine to hit me when he’d been screaming and raging because I knew that once he did things would finally de-escalate. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this and I hope the getting out doesn’t take too long or wear you down too much. You’re being very smart about it it seems. You are worth so much more than…

Yay on remission!

I spent a lot of time wishing my abusive ex husband had followed through with one of his countless suicide threats. That’s been a hard feeling to reconcile with my generally peaceful, happy nature, but I finally accepted that I’m not wrong for wishing he’d been removed from my life sooner, no matter how it was…

Yeah, I feel like that quote really captures how they want things both ways. Guns don’t kill people except when used by a person we don’t was to hold accountable for their actions.

I feel for this kid. Douchebag or not, he’s still a kid. He was egged on by adults. It’s creepy as fuck but it seems like he’s a victim too. He was used. And is no one going to care that he maybe has 20+ year old women after him? Because if that’s true, it’s not in any way OK.

I always make sure people know I thought she was absolutely fantastic in that movie. She fucking shined and deserves that moment, because she was perfect.

I’ve heard that exact phrase from my ex. I’m sorry you had to go through that.

October actually is DV awareness month, so it wouldn’t be all that difficult for them.

Every time I read that choking is a strong indicator of potential fatality in abusive relationships, I realize how fucking lucky I was. It’s such a terrifying realization, every single time and a reminder of why I will always have to keep my guard up. Stories like this make me hurt so much for these women. There’s no…

I like the way you think.

Ugh fuck people. This is horrendous and Syria has no bearing on tragedy here.

Purple is actually the color for domestic violence. Not that it matters, but just so you know :)

I just want to say I appreciate you realizing you were approaching from a view of not really understanding and acknowledging that. People tend to make snap judgements about women who stay with abusive men and not think about the aspects they don’t see, and a lot won’t attempt to revise those judgements. A lot of…

Abused women frequently go back to their abusers. They know how to get in our heads. You always hope they change. Sad truth.

Thank you for that. I feel so broken so often, it means so much to hear I’m not.

It hasn’t even been a year since I left and I’ve done a lot of ignoring the pain and forcing myself to just keep going, so I know logically my responses like that still make sense. I just loathe how scared he’s made me. It’s hard to accept.