That’s a really good point, and I wonder how long it’ll be before politicians are able to openly admit they have open marriages. Still, there does seem to be a pattern of male politicians in particular being indiscreet in a way that causes their dalliances to become publicly known. I mean, if the Clintons *do* have an…

Yeah, re. your last point, it’s interesting how political ambition seems to correlate with reckless cheating for men but not for women (as opposed to say, movie stardom, which seems to correlate with reckless cheating regardless of gender).

Yes, all true. Talk to any American who has lived abroad — our system is the fucking worst. Also, I’ve lived in Germany and Canada, and in neither did I have to wait longer to see a doctor than in the US.

Yes. Plus there’s a certain kind of blue-collar white male who cares more about anti-establishment/“tells it like it is” than any sort of ideology or policy who would consider Bernie but not her. Weird as it is, there are people who are actually torn between Bernie and Trump.

I am a woman with terrible handwriting and cannot count the number of times men in meetings have asked me to take the notes on the grounds that “you have the best handwriting.”

See, everything for even the tiniest children has to be “educational” to show you’re a fancy person who’s sending the kid there purely to enrich him and not out of the kind of vulgar parental need to work that might result in something trashy like “daycare,” which is probably located beside a highway and has plastic…

I experienced this too when I lived in Germany, but at the same time the overall level of street sexual harassment there is just way lower than in the US. Like, the amount of harassment I got from immigrant dudes in my German neighborhood was higher than the zero harassment ever that I got from white German dudes, but…

This was totally my disheartening takeaway too — what these survey results show is how many men will only perceive women as human beings when it comes to their own daughters. I’ve noticed this often in arguments with tech dudes about bias against women in their industry — I get nowhere when I ask them to imagine their…

I’ve heard from climate activists that a lot of migrant workers moving northward from Latin America are climate refugees of sorts who are heading north due to climate-change-induced crop failure in their home countries. This could definitely lead to higher awareness in Latino communities, especially if…

It’s amazing/depressing how many of America’s worst problems would just vanish if blue-collar white people realized this and voted accordingly.

All these horrible police murders of unarmed black people that have come to light recently sure have provided an effective shorthand for identifying which white people are terrible, terrible human beings. If you’re OK with the Tamir Rice killing, you’re not only racist but also just a piece of shit person devoid of…

My favorite part of the orientation materials I’ve seen for Germans going to study abroad in the US are the cultural tips like, “When an American asks ‘how are you?’ they are not actually asking how you are, and you should just reply with ‘good, how are you?’ rather than giving an honest answer.”

OMG so agree — I live in a stereotypically super-liberal place and constantly hear comments that impose romantic or sexual categories on all manner of boy-girl interactions. My kid is in first grade and when he’s playing with a girl, grownups will be like, “ooh, is that your girlfriend?” It totally instills shame…

When I was little I went through a phase where I was plotting to run away with a sleeping bag and sleep outside somewhere. I was also, unrelatedly, super scared of dogs. So when my mom caught wind of my plan to run away, she told me that all dog owners let their dogs run free at night. I continued to believe this for…

Ooh, thanks for the tip re Belotero, I was assuming Restylane.

Yeah, he and the two older guys totally should not have the same set of charges.

Samesies! I’m interested in tear trough filler for my undereye hollows, but also kind of scared, because I’ve never had any filler and it seems like a sensitive area of the face that would be easy to mess up if the dermatologist weren’t super experienced and excellent.

I buy my candles at IKEA. Those are some cheap candles.

The persistent habit of blocking out the structural conditions that make our lives suck in order to focus on individual choices as if these choices occur in a vacuum. (E.g. energy devoted to judging other parents who make different personal choices re staying at home with babies vs sending them to daycare rather than…

She has a lot of insightful things to say, but I find her maddening because she’s so incredibly harsh on any woman she deems to be not the same kind of woman as herself, in a way that she’s never harsh on men. Elizabeth Gilbert, Roxane Gay, Leslie Jamison, Claire Vaye Watkins, and in this conversation Jean Rhys and…