I am not saying how I think that men and women SHOULD interact, I am saying how they DO interact.

I know there is no set amount of dates that I should be going on. I think I should have a higher quantity and quality of dates. If I met a great woman now, I would be happy without thinking about all of the other women I am not dating because I am with that great woman. The dating coach said I really should be going…

Yeah, I have gone out with or just plain met women who were immediately interesting and engaging, but women typically expect the man to guide the conversation and to create the spark. Women often say “I didn’t feel any spark” after a date with some guy, and it makes me wonder if she really expected him to do all of…

Well, I guess you’re just better at dating than I am. Earlier in our exchanges I speculated that you “have your act together,” and I not so much. I am much better than I was when I was younger, but clearly my love life is not where it could be.

I cannot reasonably expect women to send me interesting messages on bumble, I cannot reasonably expect women to pay for the entire bill on dates, and I cannot reasonably expect women to make much of an effort to be engaging on first dates. All of those things are expected of men. Women will typically open up later,…

Yeah, a lot of people would love one date a month. And I have empathy for them. I think that the percentage of people like that is increasing and I don’t like the way society is going.

I live in Washington, DC, a city with a reputation for having more single women than single men. Probably, but it is also a very high-powered city, and my job is not. I often wonder if I would be better off moving to Providence or somewhere.

I cannot reasonably expect women to attempt to entertain, charm, or impress me.

Thanks for agreeing with me! I wonder how genuine my opposition is being.

I am looking for a relationship, and I really think that all of my dates feel the same way. I don’t “let my intentions known” but I really think it is implied. If anything, I probably come across as a non-serious person.

1. You saw men on obvious first dates with women, flirt with the female server/bartender? Really? That seems like a rude move for a woman to do, and a really self-sabotaging move for a man.

I really should be getting more than one date a month, and more of those should lead to second dates. You say I shouldn’t see women as a number, and I do not think that I am. But, if I am not meeting sufficient women, it is unlikely that I will meet someone I actually want to be with, and she feels the same.

I don’t think he was expecting me to pay him to tell me what is wrong with me. I see myself as a baseball pitcher with potential, but perhaps I could use a pitching coach to get better results. He probably sees himself like that as well.

Men are a lot less likely to chat with female waitstaff when on first dates. And men are definitely less likely to chat with female passengers on the bus when with their girlfriends. Both of those are recipes for disaster for a man. Women do it more often. And men are more likely to put up with it. If a man does it,…

Ok, $600 per month makes a lot more sense. I was under the impression that you were also paying $600 for each session with his fitness guru wife. Now that you clarified that, that price is actually cheaper than the rate the dating coach offered me. But mine was earlier this month and yours was 10 years ago.

I wish Xian’s Famous Foods would expand to other cities.  I think that was the plan, but then the pandemic happened. 

You’re giving those female customers on first dates a major benefit of the doubt. I really doubt that you would feel the same way about a man you were on a date with and he was constantly chatting up the female bartender.

It is definitely not that “all women agreed to do this shit.” But can you really say that you don’t believe that many women will test a man to suss out his confidence level?

“Automobiles are the ideal social distancing tool.”

$600 an hour is absurd. It is hard to imagine how any such “coach” can justify that without knowingly being a scam artist. Even if the “advice” is great, afte 5 session, that’s $3000, which for most people, especially in their early 20s, is doing more harm than good.