Oh, get over yourself.

Exactly. And just because most things are outside of our control doesn’t mean there’s not plenty we DO control. I feel like what people are actually saying when they’re all “you can’t control ANYTHING!” is letting themselves off the hook for not putting effort into the mundane—but important—things they very much can…

Nobody said anything about “gawking” at strangers, or being unable to ignore stupid behavior.

I don’t know how you got from “you can’t control lots of external stuff” to “nothing you do matters.”

So presumably you’re that guy who runs into people/doesn’t move around as people enter/exit the train, doesn’t move into the car, etc. You might think you’re not, but if you’re not paying attention, you are.