have you considered just sticking up for yourself? Don’t be a victim! /s

See? Avoiding rape is easy! Just don’t do it! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Fair enough. The word ‘confront’ doesn’t need to imply hostility or aggression, though; it can just mean that you’re being straightforward in presenting or acknowledging something.

She wasn’t involved at all, I don’t think - the guy just posed as her online, probably assuming the women would be more open and compliant if they thought another woman was organizing the whole thing.

There are a number of things that are fucked up about this. I’m especially baffled by trying to imagine someone I knew in grade school posing as me to lure women into a situation where they can be raped. That adds another dimension of creepy weirdness to the whole thing.

If I randomly decided to beat any of my children that were redheads, would we focus on the fact that they didn’t choose to be redheads, or would we focus on the fact that I shouldn’t be beating my fucking kids?

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Sarah was sent to gay conversion camp after trying to take her girlfriend to the prom. An argument could be made that she is being punished for this expression of her sexuality, her girlfriend, rather than her identity. (Can’t know for sure, given the information here.) Identity and behavior are different, you’re…

okay thanks for explaining bisexuality to a bisexual person

man in the iron mask lololol

REVERSE RACISM YOU GUYS

Nah; ScarJo could do it so much better.

I was thinking maybe ScarJo though?

Nothing you said is contrary to my comment. You don’t disagree with me. I would love for the choice status of LGBT individuals to be irrelevant, but it is a factor that can make life easier for some LGBT people.

That’s true. But then you have to consider whether it’s the label or the expression of that identity that bothers people. (I’m sure it’s some of each.) One could make the argument that if gayness is bad, I could spare my family the humiliation of my expression of said gayness by choosing opposite-sex partners.…

Oh, I get you. I think we’re making the same point - I was just adding a bi perspective on it, by playing out the implications of the not-a-choice argument.

What part of my statement are you disagreeing with?

“they didn’t choose it” sounds a lot like “they can’t help it”. And “they can’t help it” still makes it sound like it’s a bad thing.

I’ve had this discussion with my lady friends many times. There are so many different kinds of female artists out there who are killing it. Adele isn’t your taste? Great. Check out Nicki Minaj, or Gwen Stefani, or Amy Winehouse (*tear*), or Bjork, or Karen O, or FKA Twigs, or St. Vincent, or...

I’m not talking about true dickish behavior; I’m talking about the opportunity to experience things and explore them for the first time when your partner has possibly decades of experience with them. How do you let someone make mistakes on their own with something that you’ve been doing for 20+ years? Doesn’t the…