OK, but that, like, doesn't actually happen? I do think the format and content of this piece have a lot in common with ones I've read about how people came to realize they weren't straight. I can see how if you read judgment into it it might seem less similar but to me it seems intended to describe how the writer came…

Are you absolutely sure that polyamory 'deserves' stigma for the existence of wack or imperfect polyamorous relationships? Many words are spent describing, analyzing, and dramatizing monogamous relationships without explicitly considering their monogamy. Relationships are commonly hard to be good at, and that isn't…

I'm genuinely sorry if I've offended you. I meant to ask the question in a way that conveyed my interest in a very wide variety of responses. I'm not sure that it's completely fair or useful either, but in some ways it seems similar, as a stigmatized expression of love and form of relationship that many people…

I hear you, but I still think the typical view of non-monogamy as "impossible" should be borne in mind when reading things like this.

Quick thought exercise: in what ways is this argument different from "I don't mind gay people as long as they aren't shoving their sexuality in my face"?

Ugh you people who think 99% of cops aren't corrupt annoy me with your ignorance towards 100% of people who are given absolute power over other people.

That's not how whiteness works.

But that's a supporting detail, I'd say, because it's not for nothing that such criticisms of Obama are racialized — they are rooted in, meant to call back to, white supremacist concepts. For example, how much burn do you think Dubya felt about everyone knowin he's a rancher? I mean that's basically good press for…

So, it would be proper to describe this as a human shield situation, would it not? Nations like the US with satellite surveillance can still track the trains, they just can't distinguish between those with civilians and those with nukes.

Not that this strikes me as unusual. Just noting for next time someone accuses…

Aw, thanks. I actually was still editing it when the buzzer ran out, and I was thinking about posting elsewhere at some point so I could fix a few more little things... but yes, please feel free to use it if you'd like. I definitely think it would be best in the context of being a comment on the original post, though,…

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. IMHO it is more than anyone has a right to expect or ask for you to be so forgiving and willing to help white folks understand their own privilege and power, which makes appreciation for that all the more genuinely due.

I agree, the questions are good. I perceive one tricky part…

Naw. Nawp. Nope. No.

As another white person — honestly, from this answer it sounds like sadsweaterowner is right — but I wouldn't take it as an insult. Stay with me...

Think about the origins of guilt. Guilt is a conflict between two things: who you want believe you are, and who you perceive yourself to be.

You would like to believe you…

Let me expound briefly so as to not seem glib — I apologize; I was in transit and only had a moment.

Yes, you can say that any tree will produce bad apples. It will also produce some good ones. In this example, you are talking about a tree. In the case of a tree, the stakes are pretty low. Worst case scenario, the…

You realize the "bad apples" metaphor is a notoriously fallacious logic when it comes to examining systems, right? Your using it basically means you lose any argument.

romance in the time of norovirus

*facepalm*

Hey, so I've got an old Latitude XT2, which has a pen and touch display. What would the process look like to turn this into a tablet display for a desktop? Thanks for your help.

Right. Which is why I, for one, hope this article will finally rid people of the notion that we can continue within the current economic system and now highly interconnected society without money and its mandatory pursuit poisoning literally everything. Creators must currently subjugate themselves to money, and no one…

Sir, I resemble that remark.