The man is in denial of Murphy's Law.

"one friend was killed in full safety gear by a woman who ran a red light." Yeah totally sounds like an idiot. You are starting to sound like a real asshole, is that truthful enough for you? I hope you never die on your motorcycle because then you'll automatically be considered an idiot, right?

I don't think that's the textbook definition, but it works for me.

Because when your kids are white, you can speak to them about the racial intolerance of others from a safe distance. But when your child is brown and you aren't and no one else is, it's going to be a much, much more painful lesson. The latter is something I would want to avoid if possible, at least early on. The…

How about I take Payton? I'm black (so I can do her hair without freaking out!). I live in mulit-cultural San Francisco, and I have a reference (I've already raised a biracial daughter).

I think it really depends on what the person wants. That's generally the rule of thumb I go by, most trans* people I know are cool with asking questions, especially when it comes to pronoun usage and how they're referred to.

§ 6301 Corruption of minors.

Yeah I'm uncomfortable with some of this. Like, if a doctor botches a man's vasectomy and his wife gets pregnant, but they decide to keep the baby, they can still sue the doctor for fucking up. Would that be suggesting that the baby wasn't loved?

I don't know her personally to judge her level of racism. But people here are jumping the gun and interpreting her emotional distress claim as "emotional distress because I'm stuck with this horrible unwanted black child" rather than "emotional distress because I have no clue how to address the racial issues that will…

This is why I only eat Rainbow Trout and five bean salad — all the colors and I support gays, too.

I'm really horrified by the response here. At this point, I expect Jez to call someone a racist if they prefer egg-white omelets.

Thank you. I don't understand why people are extrapolating her admission that race is an issue to mean she doesn't love her daughter. There's a reason people who adopt cross-culturally have to go through extra screening; it's HARD to grow up in a community where nobody looks like you. This mother admittedly has no…

What's interesting to me about this is that not long ago, I remember reading an article on this very site in which a white woman in Canada sued a sperm bank because they categorically refused to allow her to opt for insemination with sperm from a black man, saying that they would only inseminate women with sperm from…

Is it not possible she didn't realize the extent of the issue until she lived there with a biracial baby? Obviously, as a white woman, she'd be shielded from quite a lot of overt racism toward blacks like the place that refused to cut her kid's hair.

Wrongful birth IS malpractice. I don't know why people keep harping on "she's a shithead for suing for this and not malpractice."

No, it is horrible, but who would you sue? There is no one person that put you in that situation or some horrible company. You can't sue life for being shitty. You can sue companies for doing something that makes your life shitty. I am not blowing off your points, I am just saying there is no legal recourse because…

Except having a kid (assuming non-rape) is your choice. You are choosing that risk, no one is giving you that risk via negligence. Thus it is able to be litigated.

Why? Because lots of people on Jez are highminded until it happens to them. They're the equivalent of Republicans who oppose abortion.

It's all about rising above here, even though most of the Jez (heavily privileged) staff never have to deal with any of the shit anyone in their "articles" do.

I agree. This lady has every right to be pissed off. She's not trying to give the baby back, but they've put her in a position she didn't plan on. I would think using a sperm bank is the best way to plan your life and now she has to move, find a new job, new friends, away from any family help she might have, yeah…