My mom was terrible when I was a kid—she couldn’t regulate her own emotions and I could never tell what she might lash out over. OK I knew if I brought home a B I was in for a screaming match, but also if I talked while she was trying to make a left turn (even if she had asked me a question, which not answering…

For whatever reason “survivor” messes with me more than “victim” does. Maybe it’s because my brain sorts “victim” into roles and legal parlance—I was the victim, he was the perp, that’s just how things went in that situation—vs. “survivor” is something I somehow have to keep doing all the time.
*to clarify, I have not…

maybe they can just be people again? With either ‘victim’ or ‘survivor’ the word is about the person and not the event, which on some level assumes that event has changed the person, has moved them into some new sort of category. Maybe we can avoid forcing them into a new category and instead speak of the events as…

2. I love it when cats sit like people, it’s my favorite!

ugh, it took me YEARS to get ungreyed on Jez, and funny thing is the it happened right when I got a job that means I can’t post as much.

I can’t tell if you’re as surprised as me, or if you’re making fun of my surprise...

holy shit, til this thread I didn’t realize those two were related!

yeah there’s an inherent conflict there: the whole point of ClassPass from the consumer perspective is not having to be loyal to one place.

Well in the states they could have not brought him in for treatment because they couldn’t afford it, and there wouldn’t be a lot anyone could do about that.

I think I’d put the scare quotes around ‘Remedies’ FWIW. The naturalness is not in doubt, the ability to remedy anything is...

I think the key is the cat being small enough to hold in one hand while the other works the phone... I’m sure my ability to do it well will evaporate soon enough!

you need to negotiate some visitation when you guys split up. We cat-sat for a friend for like 6 months and it was a huge hole in our hearts when the friend took the cat back. On the other hand, we plugged that hole with another cat, so maybe this is just warming you up to getting a furball of your own?

aww I want those in my garden. Just kidding, Ive got a couple of garden cats myself. But he looks so adorable there!!

Seriously. Don’t these people realize they aren’t in the right company for that shit? I was even reading an article the other day that mentioned how interns shouldn’t mention being cash-strapped, etc. because it’s essentially passive-aggressive commentary on their pay (often to the wrong people). I think it was…

you’re probably right. It’s just SO FREQUENT that it’s driving me nuts. So maybe this was a thinly veiled rant.

Anyone else need a work advice thread? I’ll start us off.

I’ve been loving the stuff from Target lately. They’re usually 5 for $20 and they usually have cute colors/patterns.

I know, right? Also all of the posts about ‘Keanu’ have been really on point for me this week.

Here’s your kitty pictures: this little guy and his mom have adopted us! We weren’t intending to add to the family, but we have been kind to them and they have responded by kitten never leaving our property anymore, and mama leaving to hunt/scavenge but coming back every single night. Used to be that they regularly…

I would seriously tell him, hey, I know you didn’t mean to but it really hurt to put myself out there like that and be rejected, and given our plans the next day I haven’t really had time to process it. I need a little time (a week?) to focus on me.