well, I mean, you can... but people will react to what you say. And you may not be very appreciative of some of those reactions.

gee, thanks :P

Well I should start by clarifying that she did not actually hurt me. It was... like when you make the gesture, if you said to yourself that could just shake someone, that gesture you instinctively make with your hands? Like she genuinely did that to me, put her hands on my shoulders and shook. I was mostly just really…

I remember my first job out of school, the whole company turned out to be much more conservative than I expected given that it was a design firm (whoops, gotta check those assumptions!). They wound up talking about liberals the way your associates talk about other races. A couple of incidents particularly stood out—a…

I’d love to hear what other people have done about thinly veiled sexist statements in performance reviews. Last year I got told that I need to be “less prickly” and after some thought I realized wait a second... all the guys in leadership positions are just as direct as I am, stand up for their point of view like I…

You’re the one who took it up all the notches.

OK, I don’t know why your POV is so precious and pristine that it cannot be disputed while the rest of us can, so I’ll just leave it that you’re focusing on entirely the wrong person and be done.

eh, in a longterm way yes I agree that if they don’t want to be in the relationship they shouldn’t be. But I really appreciate people who show some consideration with regards to timing—people who speak up before their partner moves across the country or gives up a great job for instance, and yes, those who stick…

ha, that’s how I roll with Greys as well. Burke walking out on Christina is basically the end for me.

But what did her behavior actually do to hurt MLP? All the hurt was caused by Crudup.

Selma Blair got Botwined for me right out of the gate. She was too good at playing the character in Cruel Intentions (and I was long convinced that character was meant to be mentally disabled) and I cannot look at her and see someone of normal intelligence, so every role since has been ruined.

Cue the comments because you’re essentially making her responsible for what he did. She’s not. She could have said you know, this is not the time, but what good would that have done really? MLP still would have just been dumped while pregnant. The hurt still would have happened, she just would have preserved some…

I think it’s also about leaving baby-mama alone at the time when she most needs the help. And you (figurative you, I’m not assuming that you specifically have done this) can say you’re still going to help, be there, etc. but the feelings run so high that it gets in the way of that, and she’s extra alone at that time.…

Probably not, but maybe we should. We assume that men have sexual desires, and don’t assume the same of women. But a woman who is physically developed but mentally handicapped would of course also have physical impulses that were in conflict with our ideas of consent.

Also her role as translator makes his consent dubious. I would be more open to the argument that he could effectively consent (even if not legally) if literally anybody else had been the one assisting him with those messages. But she told herself what she wanted to hear.

This was similar to my experience—I couldn’t do pushups for 30 years, then I starting using the 7-minute workout program where one portion is pushing you to do as many pushups as possible in 30 seconds. I spent the first week not being able to do any, then slowly figured it out, now I can do 12 in 30 seconds. I think…

When I got engaged I tried to be sane about it. I didn’t want to be a part of the WIC, didn’t want to cave to their bullshit, but at the same time I knew I could stand to lose a bit anyways so #motivation. So I gently eased myself into what felt like a sane routine. I didn’t eat every single dessert I wanted to, and I…

“only God, Darren, and the victim know what happened.”

Have you ever complained about spoilers on twitter? She seems to have a thing about that.

“Explain the appeal of Jess Mariano without going into looks”