Me too. I can’t watch it around other people though, because my suspension of disbelief goes right out the window.

Same re: shitty day. Umbridge watching OITNB was my fave though.

My savior in wedding planning was http://apracticalwedding.com. The gals at APW were practical, sensible humans who tend towards a more budget-minded approach than the mainstream. They were into DIY, but not into killing yourself over it, and are total feminists.

yeah, we had our wedding at a campground, I made all decor myself and did the flowers myself (with the help of the most fabulous bridesmaids and aunts ever), had a friend officiate, had a foodtruck cater and cupcakes with no special decorations, my husband made the beer, my mom made the most expensive/difficult part…

And the expectations of the groom as well! Mine a) wanted the big production with all his dozens of family members there and b) expected that I would plan all of it. We very quickly had a come to jesus talk where he was informed that what I wanted was to march on down to the courthouse, so if he wanted his big family…

Especially since $ to them means about $$$$ to me, so their scale should really go from $$$$ to $$$$$$$$$$

I think your description of your first budget as “naive and contextless” says it all. The wedding industry is uniquely positioned in that the vast majority of their clients are first-timers (probably in part because anyone who IS getting married for a second time is like “fuck that noise, not doing that again!”), and…

I’m so sorry that happened to you. As a pet owner it can be so hard to see when it’s time to put an animal down for their behavior. My dad used to have a dog who had bitten him a couple of times, and I know he would he have felt terrible if that ever happened to someone else but I never heard him say anything about…

Except that I work downtown in a major city, and hike every day in a park known for good trail-running conditions. You probably don’t notice just how often a jogger overtakes you walking down the street in daily life—I know I never did before. Right after the attack I’d get seriously triggered half a dozen times a…

I had to make it clear to my dad when I was in my early 20s that we were not going to talk about that stuff anymore, because all he ever did was put me down. We were going scuba diving and he made some comment about how I might need a bigger weight belt than him now (har har) and I just looked at him for a long minute…

I am definitely like this, though for me it is directly stemming from PTSD from an attack 2 years ago. My biggest trigger is footsteps running up behind me, but also find myself generally suspicious of men on the street. I go through a lot of push/pull with my feelings about this, as I want to listen to my instincts…

I guess then my question is, why are there so many guys who want to rape on the council? I’m not of the mindset that assumes this is something that all men desire, so I’m wondering how the council comes to consist of uniformly awful human beings.

I think everyone else has already covered the general WTF-ness of this, but a tangent my mind’s gone off on with this is, what’s up with these village elders? Why don’t they have more respect for their own bodies and actions than this? How fucked up do they each need to be that they view their penises as weapons and…

I think there’s a couple of layers to it—first, our healthcare system as a whole is incredibly fucked up. The whole insurance business is incredibly difficult to navigate, as so clearly illustrated by the story that started this discussion. On TOP of that, American culture in recent years has been regressing…

A clear case of Schroedinger’s fetus.

Yes. Actually the first two doctors I asked for an IUD refused me flat-out because I was unmarried. Years later when I actually had a good doctor who was happy to insert an IUD, I was actually married so wound up bypassing that fight anyways... Even with her, it took 2 months to get an appointment for an exam—which, I…

Yeah, there’s a part of me that wants to argue with this being necessarily a hip-hop reference (see all the posts above about use of “hustle” in other contexts), BUT, then I realize that the way I think of “hustle” is more the hip-hop version of it than the gym coach version of it. I don’t think it just means hurry…

yeah my initial reaction to this was “where did that question even come from??” Does she have a blog about this stuff or something else that would explain someone even choosing to grill her on this topic?

I suppose if you think remaining even-keeled is classier than being honest, sure. We’ll have to disagree on that one though.

Except he did not respond reasonably at all—he dodged, made false analogies, and was misleading. If that's what you want in a president, that's pretty scary.