That could be, or it could be that she’s making excuses, or just that even though she dresses up she’s not comfortable with herself that way and that discomfort mars the effect, or who knows what else. Either way, the reaction was all wrong—when a patient bristles that noticably, that’s usually a sign that you’re…

Or conversely, “It seems like we’re not making headway on an issue that should have come to a resolution some time ago, which makes me question whether you may have more success with another therapist. I’d be happy to make a recommendation.”

That blows! I guess the only time I saw one for more generalized depression was the worst experience I’ve had. The time when it was really helpful to me was when I’d suffered a trauma and needed help working through it—that lady was kick ass and I’d go back to her in a heartbeat if I felt like I needed to. But then…

I think he was probably right to bring it up, but the way he handled her reluctance was all wrong. I feel like the thing to do would’ve been like, “I can see you’re reacting strongly to discussion about your appearance—is this a sore point for you?” and explore why that is. The impression I’d get from that reaction is…

I’d put a caveat on that—talk therapy with no defined goal and end date is a scam. A good therapist will help you define goals, develop a timeline for meeting them, and frankly will push you out of the nest if things linger to the point where it’s clear they’re not helping.

Actually both of those terms are in use in the architectural field (so much so that they even appear in common sources like Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neo-Histo…), referring to the idealization and recreation of historical styles. The connotation and distinctions I usually hear are “historicism” or…

ugh. My husband and I have been looking at houses, and the one rule I made sure to establish is that if we wound up with something with terrible faux stone on the outside I was going to pry that off the first weekend after closing. It is offensive, plus I get the excuse that no respectable designer could have that…

omg, that’s the best idea ever though. I now want to write to neighbors about their relentlessly bad architectural choices.

ew. Well that changes my feelings on this entirely.

that’s what I couldn’t figure out, whether she had just arrived or whether we were meant to believe she’d been there the whole time...

“Even if I want to buy something from Gap, I know it could always be cheaper so I just wait. Then it sells out and I don’t care.”

This has always been my challenge, particularly with pants. Every brand seems to be constantly changing their fit so the brand that fit me fine a year or even a few months ago, now seems to stock exclusively low-rise, too-small-in-the-waist-too-big-in-the-hips, or otherwise oddly fitting jeans. This means that every…

yeah, he should’ve just said #sorrynotsorry

Maybe it’s wishful thinking on my part, but I think there’s some other intentional wording, when he says he’s dead. Well yes, he’s dead, but as we’ve seen that doesn’t necessarily mean that he can’t be really alive again afterwards. You’ll notice that a priestess of R’hllor was maneuvered unexpectedly into position at…

Thanks to those who responded to the IUD question a couple of saturdays ago. I got it out this week, and am looking forward to returning to my cramp-free, four day long periods. Hooray!

Mine wasn’t so much a complete ending of a friendship, but more of a pulling back to the level of friendship that feels ok for me. I’ve had this friend for like 15 years, and when we were younger I always felt like I was a second-tier friend to her, like she didn’t really want me around if there were better options,…

Can we all just agree that magical thinking is a very bad quality in a politician?

now you’ve got me imagining mechanics somehow turning our cars racist.

Here’s the thing, I post all kinds of nonsense on my facebook page, but if anything could ever be interpreted badly by one of my clients or by my employer in a way that relates to my job or any of the clients the firm represents (not just mine, but clients I am aware that we have which I may not even work with), I…

Wait, wait. It sounds like some toys are used for your cat, and then if she doesn’t like them handed down to boyfriend’s cat? How does this work? How are you still alive?? If my cat smells the faintest whiff of another cat, I’d better run for my life. No matter how little she cares for the humans and/or her toys, she…