Maybe he's just got the settings on his empathy box out of wack?

yeah, I feel like I've instinctively understood this, that I don't want to risk everything all at once but try to only have a couple balls in the air at a time. The times I feel the most stressed and freak out about seemingly insignificant things, there's usually 5 more things stressing me out that make it seem like…

While my degrees are completely different (B.Arch and MFA), my conclusions are pretty much the same. I'm inclined to say 'worth it' because I'm in a good place right now, but if I had to go back in time I'd do it differently. I graduated high school at 16, so I think a gap year would have been perfect for me to figure…

Well what your responses are telling me is that you're not ready to be dating. Give it some time, your heartbreak is still too fresh.

it's that thing that scares the cat :)

I think your original post is BS, but this is a good question, as it gets at the root of how your partner views trust—is it unconditional to them, does it have to be earned, or do they find it altogether impossible?

"If someday down the line we get married, do you expect our relationship to stay the same, or change?" and follow up if he says he expects things to change. I've seen too many people with Madonna/whore complexes who think that a Girlfriend can do things that a Wife can't.

Nice to meet you, I am also Haggard Art Lady. I have recently taken to applying eye cream and doing the ironing every other week... we'll see how long that lasts before I revert to my usual (lack of) routine.

I think this is what Health class was supposed to be, but because kids are cruel it just resulted in the popular kids laughing at anorexics and depressed people, and the anorexic and/or depressed people ditching class a lot.

There's definitely a fine line of validation that a therapist has to walk, and not all of them do it well, and not all of them do it well with all patients. They need to validate enough that you feel safe with them and talking to them and not like you're going in every week to have every decision you've ever made in…

That would be lovely. I don't post here as often as I used to since I got kicked back into the grays, but I always appreciate your perspective (as well as Rooo's, incidentally).

That would be lovely. I don't post here as often as I used to since I got kicked back into the grays, but I always appreciate your perspective (as well as Rooos, incidentally).

I'm going to be the bummer of the group—I've got a copper IUD and am probably going to get it removed soon. Warning, the following may be TMI, but I get the impression that's just the way this topic goes... ever since getting it, my periods have been horrible. Usually around 10 days long, and so heavy that I ruin at…

oh good. It did seem like a sort of trolling we'd be particularly vulnerable to here.

Worst week ever at work. It's become clearer and clearer that my company has set me (and possibly my whole department) up for failure. My boss had a talk with me Friday about a project that's in trouble, and the more she talked about how my performance had been above and beyond, and nobody held it against me, etc. the…

I suspect the people who send those messages already know they have no hope and are just trolling at this point.

Soooo adorable! You realize I have dispatched puppy-nappers to your location already, right?

Worst week ever at work. It's become clearer and clearer that my company has set me (and possibly my whole department) up for failure. My boss had a talk with me Friday about a project that's in trouble, and the more she talked about how my performance had been above and beyond, and nobody held it against me, etc. the…

I think the other reason is different ways of defining "the economic spectrum." Is it income, accumulated wealth, or some combination or average of the two? I know people who don't make a lot but have family property, etc. and think they're poor, and people with high incomes who live paycheck to paycheck to afford the…

That's awesome, and explains so much why I don't feel like I know where I fit in—my profession indicates one class, my education and household income another, and my wealth (or in this case lack thereof) yet another. I think this is why it's so hard to define, because those things are operating so independently of…