I don't disagree, I just think the proportion of that responsibility shifts substantially when one partner has information the other partner doesn't.

When I was buying my car, I got pre-approved for financing from my credit union, which they offered at a full point below anything I was hearing advertised anywhere else. Knowing my interest rate, I did a lot of research online before I went to any dealerships, and had run the numbers over and over again, so I walked…

Well then you achieved your goal some time ago, and I'm done with this nonsense.

Yet your tone has absolutely zero chance of achieving the goal.

I'm just saying that if your desire is to have the conversation be less heteronormative, please represent what you want represented instead of requiring others to do so. If you'd come at this like, "and if there's no penis, then you should..." my response probably would've been "ooh, good point."

well how about if there's some difference in either function or habits that you would like addressed, you volunteer that information to round out the conversation?

I cannot agree with the statement that they should not be obligated to disclose. How can you put the onus onto someone who doesn't have all the facts disclosed to them? I agree that you should always use condoms for casual sex, but condoms are not perfect and if someone does not wish to take the risk of sleeping with…

I get it in an abstract way, it's just not a position that's relatable to my life. I just think that's a bit of a divide that's hard to cross in relationships—when I've tried to have relationships with people who approach work very differently than I do, I wind up hearing a lot of lectures about how I shouldn't let…

Also his underlying unspoken premise that emotions are not valid or even rational is bs anyway. People feel the way they feel for a reason, and if you're willing to do the work of getting to the root of it, you might learn something. The anti-emotion schtick is lazy IMHO.

I think it's weird that he sounds like he's making excuses instead of honestly discussing his reasons. I mean, if you slept downstairs in "his" bed with him, would that be ok with him? Or would he make up some excuse to get away?

People who don't really care about what they do: it's not that I think they're bad people, it's just that I have found that I cannot relate to 90% of their life. It's not even an ambition vs. lack of ambition thing, as my husband's ambition is to go full-time at his hobby shop and retail work isn't exactly the be all…

How is it that he manages to say that there's nothing going on, which I would've totally accepted, like there's totally something going on? Why does it have to be a difficult interview, hard to talk about, etc. if it's really just that simple?

And suddenly they'd all be labeled difficult to work with and see their careers go the way of Kathrine Heigl.

Well when he was in Pirates all those extra Johnnys he kept seeing were really his clones, so they have time for a lot of work ;)

What I love about Jezebel: knowing they'll cover whatever political or other news item might actually relate to my daily life/circumstances

HA. No, but she knows my husband, who at is more likely to be found on his hands and knees entertaining the cat than cleaning, helping me make breakfast, or pretty much anything else productive. #slavesofthecat

That would be a cowl neck.

eh, I think that unless her boobs are actually popping out of her dress, how it looks is pretty irrelevant. She makes her choices for a reason, based on years of experience, based on what her boss/manager/whatever prefers, based on the weather that day, all sorts of things that this random person sitting on the couch…

I think my cat's post would be, "I don't need feminism because the male human is already my servant. Still working on the female..."

And you totes make that choice on your own, right? There's definitely not some dude doing the impregnating and getting the storybook family out of the deal while getting to go on about his career like nothing's happening... oh, wait, there probably is.