Indeed! Book Harry & Ginny > movie Harry & Ginny by a mile, mostly because the actress they cast as Ginny whe she was what, 10 years old? just did not grow up to be the actress they needed her to be to make that character and relationship mean something later on.

I do, but there's still different ways to do this. If I know I'm going to the gym in the afternoon, I don't shower in the morning. However under the same circumstances my husband would shower in the morning (because ROUTINE) and then again after the gym. I grew up in the desert, and apparently those water saving…

seriously. It is time to have a Jez cleanse. Don't post about this lady for 90 days so we can all detox.

"America has a complicated relationship with its own boner."

Also, just don't go into business with people whose morals conflict with your own. If the lady cheats on her husband, why would she not do unsavory things behind her business partner's back?

I agree. I suspect she's using these stories as a way to wave the "I'm just not into you" flag—look at all the sexy sex I'm having! With your friends! They're so grrrrrreat in bed! Remember how I don't want you, and I'm going to remind you of it every time we talk to keep you at arm's length!

That link is awful. I see what it is, I know I shouldn't click. But I'm magnetically drifting towards the train wreck that I know is on the other side. Why did you do this to me???

That's a good point—it is a very heteronormative view. Probably just better to teach everyone that it's their job to work well around each other regardless.

ewwwwww.

I came here all ready to defend sex segregation in classes, particularly at the middle school level (side note: when did 5th grade become "middle school" anyway??). My math class was segregated during 8th grade, and the grades and scores of both sexes went up from previous years. However, the whole point of that was…

In the abstract I would agree with that, but in this instance there's no need for the body comparisons to be made in the first place. The LW doesn't seem to want to "improve" her friends in the manner of changing their weight—she's become concerned because of their constantly putting themselves down, which I think is…

no, I said IF she accepts YOUR point of view that that is the case, the result is that she is trapped from a verbal standpoint.

But she doesn't believe it to be the truth—she seems to value them as friends. You're the one pushing that agenda.

But maybe they're saying it not to "not feel bad" but to avoid a conversation that will go downhill fast and only hurt their friends more. I know the lie hurts, I've been there, but the alternatives suck too and it's really best to just not corner people like that.

honestly, I think she expects them to not put her in the awkward position of either having to be rude or having to lie, which is essentially picking a fight on their part. If she accepts your POV that because they're fat she should not tell them they're beautiful, what on earth is she supposed to say? "you're right,…

I disagree with your advice for college roommate on what to say. As much as she needs to support her friends, she also has the right to feel comfortable in her own skin, especially in her own home. She doesn't have to address their weight at all or her own weight—just say something like, "I'm really uncomfortable with…

"you mean that as a compliment to me and an insult to yourself, but it's an insult to me too. I don't want to hurt you, I haven't done anything to hurt you. My body cannot hurt you simply by existing—that's something you're attributing to me that is not my doing, and I need you to stop it."

wait, we're not supposed to double down when we're wrong? I've been playing the game all wrong...

I don't even think she looks slimmer overall—really the DRESS is what comes out looking better for the photoshop job, and the fashion designer should be thanking vogue for keeping them from looking like an idiot.

You and me both. How does one get out of the grey anyway?