Happily married person for going on 11 years this summer here, and I just talked to a friend who is going on 20 happy marriage years, and we agreed that much of the problem that some people have is that they neglect the advice mentioned in step 1, be someone worth dating. The focus becomes so much on trying to FIND…

I have been groped a couple of times. I didn’t report it. In both instances, I was 100% certain that I did nothing to deserve it and that the groper was 100% in the wrong, but I was able to remove myself from the situation without inconveniencing myself, it didn’t traumatize me (although it has made me completely…

I often find myself on the opposite end of things - I find it weird when I’m invited to meet people at a restaurant around 7 pm and everyone gets drinks only, and then I have to decide if I want to just waste money on drinks and feel sick, and then have to make time I don;t have to get some whole other thing to eat…

Yeah, honestly, if I’m not allowed to use facebook or twitter EVER in an office environment, I’m just going to leave my cell phone out. I am not someone who takes a cigarette break and I don’t need to run out and get a snack every two hours, and I don’t know why I should be prohibited from using social media during my…

I have taught private voice and piano lessons, and actually feel a little offended when given cash tips. I don’t see myself on a different social level than the parents of the kids I teach. I am certainly at least as cultured and educated as any of them, and if I needed more money, I would raise my rates.

Wow yes. I didn’t want kids. Do you know how often I have to hear, “Well, that’s great! Lots of people who shouldn’t have kids have them anyway, so it’s good that you thought about it.” Ummm, no, my saying I didn’t want them wasn’t admission that I wouldn’t have made a good parent. I would’ve been a terrific mom. I…

Can you honestly say that you’ve never looked at a woman who worked outside the home and said, “Well, if you budgeted more carefully/married a husband with better financial prospects/valued material things less/etc., you wouldn’t have to work outside the home either?”
Also, if you worked outside the home and you…

LOL I definitely think my hotness factor has increased since I started doing intervals, although not necessarily while I am doing them. But intervals take a lot of monitoring to the feedback on your treadmill, whether you are going by distance or time, and then there’s all the praying for survival, so I don’t think…

Exactly...every time I run outside which I try a couple of times a year, between nearly getting bitten by dogs (and I am a huge dog lover*), run over by cyclists, tripping over junk people left on the sidewalk, getting lord-knows-what junk in my eyes, and having to stop so frequently that I can easily go at this for…

Don’t you need to have somebody spot you if you use free weights? I use machines because I don’t personally know anyone who can spot me and can where I go when I go, and I can’t afford to pay a trainer in addition to my gym membership.

Yes, I do it anyway. I do go to a gym very close to Park Slope, you know, the place of the blue boys’ hat:

I get this weird feeling on the treadmill when I do intervals that people are watching me thinking, “Why doesn’t she just keep one pace that she can sustain?” because everyone at my gym who does cardio seems to go at a slow jog for like 45 minutes.
P.S. This is not an invitation to tell me why I should run outside. I…

I have eaten several times at Local 61, the place in the photo under the headline “Choosing Where You Work” and I just want to know at what time of day they went to take that photo that it wasn’t crawling with screaming children? Because that’s why I say “I have eaten [there]” and not “I eat there frequently.” Can’t…

That’s why I stopped giving sibling discounts as a music teacher, too many people complaining that they weren’t deep enough.

Just pointing out an instance in which case, someone wondering about you for carrying one would not so much indicate that you needed to move away, but to keep it put away so people didn’t know you were carrying it :) I would also feel the same if I were on a subway car or in any other environment by myself and noticed…

I must say, when I was alone on a subway car with a man who opened his backpack and pulled out a knife, I did wonder about him. Enough to yell across the car that he was much larger than I was, and if he wanted my money, I would just give it to him without any cutting of me being necessary. Showing someone you have a…

I feel your pain! I too am 5’2” and at that height, believe me, it is not about upper body strength. I have been lifting weights for about 4 years and it is no easier for me now than it was when I started. Also, I am entitled to bring on whatever carry-on fits the weight and size requirements of the airline. My stuff…

I think this is so individual. When I was in grade school and lived in Pasadena CA, we had a lot of busywork and testing days, and my mom would pull me out and take me to the Museum of Natural History, or Science and Technology, or the LA Zoo, or we would rest in the day and go to a play or something in the evening.…

I joined a charity board without knowing anyone involved and they have parties. You never know what could happen. I went to a fundraiser that happened to be at a Ping Pong club, which happened to be owned by Susan Sarandon, who was there and we ended up chatting. You can go to some interesting stuff and don’t have to…

I go around NYC and Brooklyn all the time with a smartwatch. I weight 107 lbs and am a 5’2” middle aged woman, and mainly I think about necklace and purse quality, not getting too ritzy for my method of travel. I would say especially if you are new, you generally don’t want to be walking down the sidewalk starting at…