Yeah, should. I felt really strongly about this until I started working in clinics and with lots of actual people and then I realized that life is hard and sometimes people fuck up. And sometimes people make these non-choices because the choices are really really hard and their reality doesn’t include the support and…

Or how do we help women in the 26-35 age range who would like to have children but are questioning whether they will ever have enough financial stability (because we don’t have great paid maternity leave and it’s impossible to afford anything bigger than a one bedroom/studio in most of our major cities even with a…

/googles Betteridge’s law

What you’re talking about is what I would call the Welp! method. “I wasn’t sure and then it happened. Welp!” And it worked out well for you but there are plenty of mothers to whom it happened and they didn’t love it.

These discussions are always so focused on ourselves. Pregnancy by definition involves multiple people (a partner in reproduction who also consents to becoming a parent, a future child). Creating a whole new human being shouldn’t be a matter of “whoops”, and there’s no reason to be nostalgic about a time when it more…

Betteridge’s Law in full effect.

The entire area is alive with police from everywhere nearby.

I know exactly what you mean! I was fascinated to discover how toilets worked in medieval castles. Check out these pictures:

Exactly this. There are many forms of physical, emotional and sexual violence that never leave a visible mark. Overuse of the black eye and split lip trope leads people to believe you can spot a victim immediately. You can’t.

Campaigns like this also assume that the issue is just that people aren’t aware of severe physical domestic violence. But they are aware, because we’ve been raising awareness for decades - there are plots about it in movies and tv shows, publicly funded campaigns, huge national discussions about specific incidents,…

Oof. Another problem with domestic violence awareness like this is folks assume it looks like your face is all bruised and cut up. As one of my clients said, “I preferred the beatings. The bruises heal, but I still can’t get the words out of my head.”

Nope.

I think it’s irrelevant what his mental status is. Scores of people have mental illnesses and do not do this. Scores of people are violent against women in this same way and do not have a mental illness. And for a good number of people, this isn’t evidence of “batshit crazy”, but rather what these women deserved. See: …

“He claims to be a Christian and is extremely evangelistic, but does not follow the Bible in his actions. He says that as long as he believes he will be saved, he can do whatever he pleases....”

You’re not a sociopath.

I don’t see how he can continue to try and justify himself without breaking down into tears. Like how heartless do you have to be to not feel the full weight of killing a child? ESPECIALLY ONE THAT DID ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG.

Yes! You THOUGHT. And you were wrong. And you misidentified a child as an adult, a boy as weighing 185 pounds, and went in guns blazing. You were wrong and someone died and that’s 100% your fucking fault! You are bad at your job and at life and you should go to prison.

If someone is automatically perceived to be a threat, your brain will fill in the details with what it expects to see. This is the insidious aspect of racism that is the hardest part to eradicate.

No. It doesn’t even matter that this was a child. Firing on someone before they get into a position to fire - barrel of the weapon pointed at the police officers - is tremendously wrong. It creates an immediate paradox as well: how does a person put a weapon on the ground without removing from his waistband? If the…