why not both? a 2-in-one combo of being seen as busy/impt enough to have an assistant AND having an assistant(even if fake) of the gender more likely to get respect?

This argument makes no sense.  If a person plans to steamroll a woman, why would they treat her female assistant any better given the way many people look down on “secretaries”?

And lately, there’s the extra fun of being called a “Karen” for daring not to remain silent and smiling at all times if you dare to be middle-aged and female in public (strangely there is no equivalent term for men which seems telling) (I realize this name has a certain meaning in the black community for a racist…

If they won’t believe the actual busy professional woman, why are they going to be any more deferrential to her female (fake) assistant, who presumably will have 2 strikes against her, one her gender and two her perceived status as a mere “secretary” in many people’s minds? Why even bother with this intermediate step…

I am made my first professional website for myself, a combo professional blog/portfolio, and have put it under a (not yet existent except in vague concept and domain name) business name (and not tied to a person’s name) to attempt to avoid sexism and privacy/potential harassment concerns. I was made to feel a bit…

You have excellent initials for that too.  Mine are decidedly less ideal.  (I like that yours even form a male name some men would go by, making it less likely the possibility you’re a woman enters anyone’s mind.

Have not done that b/c of shame about eating.  I do, however, make sure my two large dogs accompany me to the door so every delivery person knows my house is well-guarded.  That is, pre-covid.  Now that I have experienced the wonders of no-contact delivery, I doubt I will ever open my door for a delivery again,…

Or better lately, IMHO, letting the automated computer voice handle the voicemail greeting.

Just in case you’re not sea-lioning, to get anywhere in life, we have to do what’s effective for the situation we are in, not endlessly focus on how things should be at the expense of abandoning our goals. Case in point: Elizabeth I of England. She somehow threaded the needle of ruling England at a time when people…

Small quibble from a woman who otherwise agrees with you:

As someone who spent way too long married to someone who (in retrospect) did not in fact want all that goes along with marriage (think asexual), but never told me that and allowed me to think for years that I was the hideous, unfuckable problem in our marriage, staying in a relationship that’s wrong for you is going…

Let’s test this logic:

Speaking of pies and politics, here’s someone who needs some pie for his face.

That mask is terrible, it looks like boxer shorts for the face.

but it’s dual purpose!  Coat in winter, bathroom rug in summer!!

“I will learn from this episode” = I will learn to *TRY not to get caught being racist next time

Have found clicking on commemts icon *under articles* is only/fastest way to get to comments from main menu on mobile. Am using Chrome, btw.

Agreed.  High contrast dark mode for example, way more readable than regular light mode.

Other 46% probably just had victims too scared to report or who tried but police didn’t take them seriously and file the report properly

Wow! You caught a real-live unicorn. I didn’t think they were real. At this point, if I were dating, I’d settle for someone who had progressiveish views or even, with where I live, someone who shared the local prevailing regressivism but at least knew enough to be ashamed of it and keep those views to himself…