People tell me all the time to reconcile with my mother.
Darwinthebeagle
darwinthebeagle
As a gay person, I HATE DEMIS. They are the worst. They constantly yell over actually LGBTQ people while almost entirely consisting of cis, straight people.
Dude needs to find another place to live. Give him a reasonable deadline, like a month to find a place, but make it contingent on not badmouthing you to your kid. If he can’t abide by that boundary, then the sheriff puts him out.
Parental alienation is considered ABUSE. If she can get proof via text or voicemail she can use it to gain custody. I would recommend saving any crazy messages and also baiting him to admit it in text.
MWAHAHAHA I’m glad you asked.
BB, if your mom is anything like mine (which I’m thinking is the case), she’s created a “perfect-scenario-vacation” ALL in her mind to which you will never live up to and will “ruin” in some way or another. The expectations from you will be unachievable because they are fathoms of your mother’s imagination. If you can…
This.
I figure that’s some part of it too, but what he’s doing with her daughter is toxic and has the potential to escalate. With his inability to hold a job and her seeming to continually kill it, I wouldn’t be surprised in the slightest if his bad-mouthing turns to verbal abuse of the mom or both of them - which then…
1. As the child of a father and mother who tore everyone around them down to try to build themselves up, get him the fuck out of the picture. Period. It does NOT make for a happier child having poison around.
I grew up with parents who were for all intents and purposes divorced but lived together for financial reasons. And they constantly bad mouthed each other to me and my sister. Asking us to pick sides. Having a meal with one while the other is sitting in the living room or in their room unwelcome and feeling like…
People who have sex in restuarant bathrooms or other places used by the public are inconsiderate and insufferable pricks and that’s saying the absolute least.
Look, I know I’ve said this a number of times but if you’re having trouble with texting, sexing, and urges in general, DOWN. LOAD. A. DATING. APP. Give it a freaking whirl. You don’t have to meet up with anyone, let alone fuck a stranger! It’s just a great way to deal with the dwelling and redirect those texting…
My daughter was 4 when her mother told me she had found somebody else and that we were over. We made custody arrangements that we stuck to as we waited out the mandatory 1 year separation, and neither one of us went the badmouthing route. Can’t speak for the ex, but I didn’t because I didn’t want to waste my time with…
Jane is incorrect that there is nothing you can do about the badmouthing of you to your daughter. Some states codify protections against this specific behavior (there is a term for it in the family law world, which escapes me at the moment) because it is extremely harmful to kids. SPEAK UP. Make sure your attorney…
Do not go. Do. Not. Go. DO NOT GO on this alleged vacation. This is all for your mom’s benefit. She is trying to rewrite history, a la ‘well it couldn’t have been so bad if you came on this vacation’. She’s at a point in her life where she realizes she is closer to the end than the beginning. This is her attempt to…
I wish I could start this more than once!
but much worse he talks bad about me to our four year old daughter.
Don’t fuck with people who understand mathematics.
Bless Bill. Dude invented the selfie and never even pursued royalties!