Yeah that goodbye was not at all satisfying either. After Dean has been, surprisingly, the most well-spoken and self-aware bachelor this season (maybe ever), he’s basically like, I’m out and we don’t get to see them have The Last Conversation? Rachel got SO defensive when Dean was like, you said you were falling in…

The Dean situation made me sad to watch not because of Dean/his dad, though obviously they have a lot to work through if they should choose to pursue a relationship, but because of how dismissive Rachel was of what Dean was telling her. “Have you tried talking to him about it?” seems just so tone deaf when someone is…

Dean basically said point blank “don’t make me do hometowns if this isn’t real” just to get immediately kicked off after hometowns. I thought that was totally classless, especially when there’s another guy who has all but committed to not being committed.

Dean’s dad failed at being a dad/parent when Dean needed him the most.

I think he also jumped at being on the show because he thought it could make him some money with his new age guru stuff. You could also easily see that he was very into “teaching” everyone about his crap and wanted to be the center of attention and be fawned over. When they talked about things other than his gong and…

I lost a lot of respect for Rachel last night. Anyone with eyes knew she wasn’t going to pick Dean in the end, and she knew how difficult his family situation is, and she went along with doing the hometown and productions exploitation of this family’s pain just for ratings. Then told him she was falling in love with…

I really liked and appreciated Dean’s post about his dad’s faith. You don’t see a ton of media representations of Sikh people, so it was great that Dean made a point to express his respect for the Sikh faith and clearly say that that wasn’t what he meant when he said his dad was eccentric. It confirmed my impression…

I immediately noticed what Dean’s dad is doing, because I see it in my own dad and father in law: It is narcissism. When dad said something like “I believe any criticism of me is really just a criticism of yourself,” the hairs stood up on my body. That’s what a narcissist says and does: Nothing is ever their fault,…

Yeah. Peter is faking. He came here to be The Bachelor and that’s what he is going to do.

Watching the scene with Dean and his father was so painful. His dad was a straight-up ASSHOLE, not just to Dean, but to Rachel as well. She seemed like she was trying to make the best out of what was a terrible situation, but even her charm and friendliness could break through. The talk between Dean and his father…

I can deal with a lot of reality tv trash, but for some reason THIS and the way that they exploited Dean’s toxic family relationship last night really bothered me.

I’d like to watch some well-made documentaries on the topic, I think. I’m wary of being triggered as well, as I’ve struggled with the impulse to temper my diet and exercise excessively for more than half of my life now. I would really like to see some documentaries though because they often present issues with a sort…

Your daughter will be so lucky to have a mom like you. My mom’s diet talk was very toxic for me growing up, and even when I talk with her about it now, she still doesn’t realize that pinching her stomach in front of me or talking about how “bad” she’s been is really, really painful for me to hear. Best of luck in…

I was at a similar workplace for 7 years, but the comments were usually directed at me for being on the leaner side. When I knew I was moving onto a new job and city in about 6 months, I started to reply to those comments because I wouldn’t have to deal with the long term gossip that could have resulted. “OMG…

Congrats on your recovery.

Yes. To all of this.

There’s a woman in my office in her late 60s, happily married for forever, and totally normal in appearance for her height and age, who in incapable of engaging in any conversation without directing it back to the good and bad foods she eats and justifying her cinnamon raisin half bagel in the morning. I try to kindly…

A bad break up in college lead to me eating about 300 calories a day and walking everywhere, literally everywhere, places that were too far/too dangerous for walking, places I didn’t even need to go, etc. I am eating a “normal” amount of food now(I’m eating sesame sticks as I type because they are tasty, and I’m…

This office breakroom talk makes it soooo hard to feel like you can participate in office life. My first job after university was in a really small office and the other two women I sat with were constantly talking about diets, food, trying some new fad, ect. It made the environment really really awful because I…