All my sex is scheduled. Since having children, we have had to schedule sex around babysitting and nap times, etc. It can be very fun, sexy, and exciting anticipating our time together. I actually get laid today at 3 and it’s going to kick ass. 

UH AIMEE WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT

Some of these women identify as bisexual or queer. By calling this a list of lesbians, you’re adding to bisexual erasure, which is a real problem, because bisexual/queer women face more violence than any other sexual orientation, and are discriminated against by both gay and straight people alike.

Yeah Kstew did an interview where she said she herself wasn’t comfortable afixing a label and that she just thinks of herself as sexually fluid. Also Amber Heard and Evan Rachel Wood have both been very open about being Bisexual.

wondered how many beautiful lesbian entertainment industry powerhouses there are to go around in this particular circle.

Yes! I had some loneliness but for the most part loved my solitude, my pet time and not having to check in. My bf is cool, fun and very considerate but it’s not like life transforming. More like, hey someone new spend time time with.

YES, this. I’ve never been in a relationship beyond a few non-committed, label-free flings, and I am genuinely content single. What I’m not content with is my well-meaning friends sounding sorry for me or acting as though my life hasnt really started yet because I’m not looking to settle down with another person. It’s…

I can attest to that. After being single I moved in with and married a guy in my early 30s that I should not have at all. I settled. 10 years of mostly deep unhappiness, tension and resentment until we finally realized we were so wrong for each other. We had a had a house, but luckily no kids. I vividly recall the…

Early 30s here, I’ve realized over the past few years that I don’t particularly want romantic relationships anymore.. Personally, I’m quite happy with my single life. I like doing my own thing, I like the peace and quiet of not having to stress about someone else or share space. I like the loving relationships I have…

Sounds to me like it’s the friends who (intentionally or not) are shitting on her contentment by insisting that it simply isn’t enough if she is not paired up. It’s not the state of singleness that makes one unhappy, it’s everyone else’s inability to recognize that it is a legitimate state, not in need of fixing.

I was for years before I met, and married my husband. While I love my husband and kids, I look forward to being alone. As an introvert, coming home from work and not having to speak to anyone is amazing.

Your comment is the elephant in the parlor. The way I see it, we’re born alone, we die alone. Alone is the default mode. It seems like the general pop thinks that Coupled is the default, as though something is somehow wrong if you’re alone for long periods of your life.

I didn’t get the Aimee’s seems miserable and I think the bravery it took to write a piece like this which would invariably lead to some one accusing her of sour grapes (which I’m sure she expected as we have heard it all before) demonstrates that she is not miserable but rather empowered by her stance. So if she seems…

What a selfish interpretation. She bemoans not being able to.freepy express her singleness and her anxiety without the immediate (and sometimes more than immediate) jumping in of others. I think her point about being cut off before she can even get her thoughts out after /being asked a question/ she _wasn’t allowed to…

It’s just that society makes those of us who are alone (whether by choice or out of necessity) feel like losers/weirdos - especially during the holidays. Sigh.

Yup I started dating someone and the relief in some of my well meaning friends and family was palpable. I don’t know that this man is my one. I am perfectly happy being single and not dating. The boughts of sadness in between acceptance of solitude disturb some people to thier core.

Agreed. But as others noted, there is a societal pressure to reach milestones like marriage and procreating. For those of us who don’t, we’re made to feel like we failed at adulting, that there’s something wrong with us because we e failed to find a partner. There is still a societal stigma to being single and…

Because there is still a stingma. You have to be in relationships and procreated by a certain age, or you are a looser or there is something wrong with you, and no one cares that you are happy being alone.

Nothing wrong with being alone, nothing.