OMG, I am reading this thread and having a complete “total recall” moment. Talking about rape by a intimate partner and BDSM mixed into it...

It’s a betrayal that has no comparison, or one that I’ve encountered at least. I stand with ya, sister.

Well, if I’m ever in a relationship again, you’ll be the first to know. I’m in school now, so my focus isn’t on chicks or dudes, but dang if this twin mattress doesn’t get awful lonely at night.

As a man, my sexual assault by a former girlfriend is something I still haven’t gotten over. I find it hard to trust, and being queer like Evan Rachel Wood, it really makes me uncomfortable around potential male partners. I sometimes try to convince myself it wasn’t rape, but if it wasn’t rape, why do I feel the way I…

Thanks. Oddly enough he kind of ended it. The last two years of our relationship was friends with benefits and we hadn’t seen each other for a month and one day he called and was like want to hang out. So I came over and he was all like “Hey I met this girl so we can be friends but sex has to stop.” At the time I was…

YES! THIS! He was even eventually prosecuted from domestic violence charges, but even then I never brought up that he’d raped me, because I had ‘gone along with it’....the truth was I was too terrified to fight back so I just went dead. After everything else that had happened, I thought it would calm him down and he’d…

Omg her performance in Mildred Pierce was insane. I love her but that character was so despicable I started to hate her...but only temporarily.

Mmhmm. I love Kate Winslet, but Wood and Guy Pearce were exceptional and stole the show.

I feel like everyone, no matter how much they claim to love me, is capable of hurting me and betraying me and doing things to me I would never do to them. So, yes, I do feel like I never truly “know” someone as I never trust anyone’s motives. Except maybe my parents’.

Oh, can I ever relate to this. It’s completely fucked up my ability to have any kind of lasting relationship, or even to have much of an interest in dating. People wonder why and ask but it’s not something I really want to have to explain over and over.... Or at all - I have only told one friend and that was weeks…

Totally. And when you throw BDSM into the mix it’s even worse. I’ve only talked about mine with a few people and on forms because who’s going to believe he sexually assaulted me when I agreed to be tied up to the bedpost and blindfolded but drew the line when I didn’t know what foreign object he was sticking inside…

I was raped by a “significant other” 14 years ago. I haven’t been in a long term relationship (longer than a month) since, even with 9 years of therapy. You’re so right, it’s particularly disturbing.

She really did. She seems like a great person too. You can tell she’s been through some real shit, which I think is why she can play some of the roles she does. She knows how to tap into her pain and translate it perfectly. Thirteen was such a great movie and I absolutely loved it when it came out. It spoke to my 16…

She is amazing as Dolores. If I don’t see her in everything from here until the end of time I’m gonna be pissed. She is such a talent & she has just a classically beautiful look. She deserves all the roles.

I saw her in Thirteen in the theater when I was in high school and it was so stunningly performed I couldn’t forget her. I just started seeing her as herself on promo tours and the thing that strikes me is an absence of apology — she’s herself, she’s multi-talented, she hangs with A-listers, and she owns it without…

I know not many people like Across the Universe because how dare they do that to The Beatles, but she is terrific in it and has a great voice. She was also stellar in Mildred Pierce too.

I really appreciate her bringing up the fact it was a significant other who was responsible for one of her rapes. I can’t speak to other kinds of rape, but I will say that rape by someone you’re involved with, someone you’ve had consensual sex with, possibly many times, is a particular kind of mind fuck. The urge to…

She is so right about how you are never really “OK” after assault. I applaude her bravery on speaking out; I have told almost no one about my rape. It is comforting to hear her story; I hope more of us can speak out.

Agreed! She has always been so honest and wonderful in interviews. She is also a fabulous actress. One of the best of her generation and criminally underutilized. I am so glad she got this role in Westworld. I hope it leads to more opportunities and we see a lot more of her on the screen.

I just love her. I am sorry to hear that she has been raped on more than one occasion, it is shitty and I hope that with even more time the scars lighten. It seems as if she is in a better place and I hope she keeps moving forward.