I don’t know why I’m even wading into this, but hi, OB/Gyn here. This sounds like an absolutely horrible situation and I feel so bad for this family - having been in many shoulder dystocias (thankfully, all of which ended with minor injuries at worst), I can vividly picture this truly horrific experience. But as…

so when doctors in red states move to blue states so they won’t get sued, how long until red states blame blue states for their own self-imposed terrible maternal mortality rates?

A boundary is saying ‘I’m not cool with this so I’m going to walk away.’ Coercion is saying ‘I’m not cool with this so you need to change it or I’ll walk away.’ Glad we could clear that up!

“He said what he wanted and told her to take it or leave it.”

Honestly, the main lesson here is that you NEVER tell the medical professionals that you took Mifi. There is no way to detect the presence of Mifi in your system. If you are concerned after a self-managed abortion, you just need to say that you are bleeding and you think you may have been pregnant.
I say this as a…

One of my best friends growing up (and not romantic in any way, that’s important) met and eventually married a guy in college who did not allow her to speak to or hang out with any other guys, and only let her see her girlfriends when he was around. I ran into them about a decade ago, it my first time ever meeting…

It’s evocative of the same study results we see over and over again. Women draw emotional support from multiple sources: Friends, parents, other family, coworkers, social groups, themselves, and their romantic partner. Men primarily draw emotional support from one source: Their romantic partner. So one person- most…

Let’s boil Hill’s statement down to it’s core:

Dudes love that shit. “I love your free spirit”. Then the woman exhibits said free-spirited behavior.  “But not like that.”

My favorite dumb potshot from the recent craze with “therapy speak” has been the “It’s not my job to teach you” line. In almost every context I see it in, it makes the speaker look dumb, even when they’re addressing legitimately bad behavior it makes them look dumb.

Boundaries are about your behavior and what you do, not about the other person. If you don’t want your girlfriend to have swimsuit photos online, you take the action to find a girlfriend who isn’t a professional surfer (or just one who doesn’t post swimsuit shots). Your boundary doesn’t proscribe your partner’s…

How a normal person would write that:

Insurrectionist respectability politics. I've seen it all.

If people aren’t inconvenienced by protest, what is the point?

I think dude needs to start carrying around a bigger cup.

Man, this is sad. My father had TCM on nonstop in the hospital a few months ago as he withered and died slowly. My last memories are riffing on movies with him and telling Orson Welles jokes. It was so great to hear his laugh a few final times. He sure loved his TCM!

Does it possibly explain how he feels about women, and about liberals, and artists? Yes, armchair psychologists will have a field day with this.

If J.K. Rowling were not a transphobe, I don’t think that I would consider her a a “radical feminist,” in the sense of the sub-movement within feminism that I was taught about in college, and in connection with which I first encountered the work of Andrew Dworkin and Catharine A. MacKinnon. However, I have…

I don’t get it...if she is a “biological male” then, by definition, they shouldn’t be upset about her being topless. Right? Either trans people exist or they don’t. If you want to regulate them as their expressed gender then you can’t say they can’t behave in other instances as that gender typically may. So tops on…