The enemy of my enemy is at the very least my temporary stepping stone. Doesn’t have to be a friend.

People. If you’re going to make a fake self online for whatever reason, you have to do it right. The key is not to drown in your own lies.

I thought the Wall of Moms was clever because if there’s anyone that Republicans hate hurting, it’s white affluent parents. It would be a gut punch to see them hurt as well.

Counterpoint, everyone deserves to go up the Maslow hierarchy. But I guess that’s a matter of opinion. Still, I prefer the idea that we are all obligated to each other as a human race, that it is a requirement as a human to be good to each other and do our best to help each other. Otherwise we’re just a mob of selfish…

Dresden Files is solid if you’re willing to overlook the early-in-series chauvinism. It takes the form of the whole “omg chivalry” thing, but Butcher gets over it after a while.

Thirding cats. Even lazy cats can get up and fight when instinct calls. I’ve never seen a mouse in the house until this year, but we found two on separate occasions. One had been bitten straight through the neck and there was blood all around it; the other had been scared to death I think, because no wounds. Good…

I have a conversation with my weight loss doctor on Tuesday. Ugh. I don’t know how to tell her that I am barely getting by and god dangit losing weight is just not easy at the best of times, and also my insurance changed so the medication I was on is now $1200 and fuck that. I also have anhidrosis and since I can’t…

Some people are overwhelmed right now, and when people are already at their limit with awful news, they snap in some weird directions. I think give her a bit of room and don’t assume she’s a Trumpster just yet.

Art has so many toes XD

Now that outdoor restaurant seating is a thing, I finally went to a restaurant again. I got rodizio at a Brazilian place, and holy crap is it good. Their flan is divine as well.

I think it’s because it puts the effort on readers. You are saying, hey, I’m having this going on. But I know you’re a person with a life. You might not have time or want to reply to me. If you do, great! If not, that’s okay.

I’m glad I can help.

Thank you! :)

Fair enough! Both extremes will cause problems. Never leaning on friends is harmful to you. Never being able to handle yourself alone will burn your friends out. Good friends will help you when they can, and help you help yourself when they can’t be there.

Certainly people drift, I agree, and sometimes that’s what is best for both people. Can’t fault you there.

“As someone who’s also struggled with terrible bouts of social anxiety, I can tell you that those thoughts of “burdening” your friends with your life are unwarranted.”

It’s so, so hard for people who have a lot of needs not to burn out their friends. Some people genuinely are so far behind the 8-ball that they need a number of close relationships. It takes years to develop the kind of relationship-balancing skills required to keep friends un-burnt-out.

I think this is a bit harsh. I’ve lost some friends due to my psychiatric situation, and I sure as fuck harbor resentment, because I have been there through thick and thin with those friends. I have spent tons of my very rare spoons on them. I fully 100% expect them to stick around for me, because friendship is a…

It’s a pandemic, we’re all drowning, and your friend has mental issues to boot. Also, the little in person things people normally do to keep friendships active and close are just impossible right now. Normally I’m big on “yeah you can ask stuff of your mentally ill friends,” but right now maybe don’t.

I would normally agree with this, except that we’re in a pandemic, and the in-person experiences that often keep friendships together are not possible right now. You have to make sure that online and phone are enough, or you’re going to lose all your friends. And right now everyone is in stress, so if you have the…